[itjustis]

What one thing did you not have growing up that you would now give to your inner child?
It doesn't have to be physical i.e a pony!

This is a task I've been set as part of my course and I'm interested to hear what you would all give your inner children?

Mine would be a mother who was nurturing, loving and emotionally available.
That seems pretty obvious for me I think, but it's what my inner child cries out for.

[Out There]

Same for me , but I never knew my father either , so it's someone I could have called " Daddy ".

Originally Posted by itjustis

What one thing did you not have growing up that you would now give to your inner child?
It doesn't have to be physical i.e a pony!

This is a task I've been set as part of my course and I'm interested to hear what you would all give your inner children?

Mine would be a mother who was nurturing, loving and emotionally available.
That seems pretty obvious for me I think, but it's what my inner child cries out for.

Exactly the same as you

[stopdog]

I don't usually think in terms of inner child-ness. I mostly would want to club it if it was found to be in existence.

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I don't usually think in terms of inner child-ness. I mostly would want to club it if it was found to be in existence.

My first thought was "smack it upside the head and tell it not to get involved with troubled men."

[Elio]

Wow too many things here... I think the biggest one would be understanding and confidence with my gender. An attuned mother and non-sexist father would have been nice too. So maybe this could all be rolled up into a healthy good enough boyhood.

[InnerPeace111]

Good question! I would give her countless hugs along with this message: "You are perfect just as you are."

[Waterbear]

A sense of belonging, safety and love.

[laxer12]

Someone who was present with her and told her that what happened was a big deal. Someone who was willing to push her a bit to open up and listen attentively. Someone who could give her a hug and tell her often that she mattered.

So essentially a T except not limited to once a week sessions....

[anais_anais]

A real mom amd dad. Or even just one. But both would be unimaginably amazing

Enough food to eat

People to love me that I can love back

She is crying just thinking about it

Edit: was supposed to pick one. Oh well. Sophie's choice really.

[kaleidoscopeheart]

I would give her back her innocence. She was forced to grow up too quickly and deal with thing beyond her years. She missed out on the best parts of being a kid. :P

[rainbow8]

Security and love so that she doesn't need it from T anymore.

I don't use inner child in my own self work but understand the concept and value for many. If I had to choose something that I did not really receive in my childhood from parents and others, and that caused me difficult to change issues into my adult life, it would be discipline and being taught how to follow through on tasks consistently. I had good parents in terms of giving me love and attention (sometimes too much), and also a lot of freedom, which I really appreciated, but there was almost no discipline and teaching me values that would guide the discipline from within. I had to explore and learn all that on my own. Not necessarily a bad thing, but I did struggle some due to not having been exposed to a good template of these things early in life.

[ruh roh]

Whatever it is they give animals to put them to sleep.

[brillskep]

I'd give my inner child more courage, confidence, and trust, in order to allow herself to be loved. Go farther toward more relationships that are healthy and loving and distance herself from an insane family. Not that my inner child or I as a whole don't have that courage already - but I'd give my inner child more. She needs more

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by itjustis

What one thing did you not have growing up that you would now give to your inner child?
It doesn't have to be physical i.e a pony!

This is a task I've been set as part of my course and I'm interested to hear what you would all give your inner children?

Mine would be a mother who was nurturing, loving and emotionally available.
That seems pretty obvious for me I think, but it's what my inner child cries out for.

Probably the experience, many times, to ***** up and not be judged/abused/neglected as a result.