[laxer12]

Last week I left my session a little dissociated (spaced out, not present, really tired) after doing EMDR. I sent my T an email telling her that happened and that I should have said something when she asked if I was okay to leave. I was pretty out of it so I just quickly said I was fine and left.

T hasn't responded yet and I'm not sure that she will until we meet again this week. Will she be mad that I didn't say anything? I also don't want her to not trust me anymore or feel like it's her fault. It wasn't a huge deal but I wanted her to know.

I'm dreading the beginning of our session this week...

[stopdog]

I don't have any way of knowing if someone else's therapist will be mad about anything or not. I do, however, think a therapist should be able to handle such things and if one of got mad over an email or any criticism - they have a problem that has nothing to do with the client.

It doesn't matter what the therapist feels - a client cannot make a therapist feel anything. They should also be very used to clients being unable to say something in the exact moment.

If it was me, I would go in with the attitude that I did nothing wrong - because I don't think it is wrong. I would not go in like I had done something wrong and was expecting punishment. Therapists do not get to punish clients.

[feileacan]

I have no idea whether your T will be mad or not but I think it is a good test in general. If she will be mad over such a thing (or any of the things that you say or do that cannot be considered serious boundary violations or abuse) then it probably wouldn't be wise to see that T anymore. And if that's the case then better to find it out sooner rather than later.

[junkDNA]

It doesn't sound like a big deal. To me... Like enough she would get angry over it

I don't think your T will consider it a problem. Probably a pretty normal occurrence.

[anais_anais]

Originally Posted by laxer12

Last week I left my session a little dissociated (spaced out, not present, really tired) after doing EMDR. I sent my T an email telling her that happened and that I should have said something when she asked if I was okay to leave. I was pretty out of it so I just quickly said I was fine and left.

T hasn't responded yet and I'm not sure that she will until we meet again this week. Will she be mad that I didn't say anything? I also don't want her to not trust me anymore or feel like it's her fault. It wasn't a huge deal but I wanted her to know.

I'm dreading the beginning of our session this week...

I don't see her being mad about this. Like others have said it's not uncommon- honestly it happens to me more often than not- and it's good that you are continuing the discussion about it and want to make this process safer for yourself in the future.

[laxer12]

Thanks for all of the responses. For some reason I just started worrying about it but my T is great so I have no reason to think that she'll be mad. Maybe it's just that she hasn't responded to my email so I'm feeling weird about it. I did say in the email that I didn't need anything so she probably interpreted that as not needing a response. I need to be more careful about how I phrase stuff in emails...

[kecanoe]

That has happened to me. Sometimes I am too dissociated to say that I am dissociated, if that makes sense. We generally talk about it the next session; t prefers me to not leave dissociated partly because of the discomfort and partly because she doesn't think driving is safe. But never mad about it-I am there because I dissociate. If I could just not dissociate I would not be in therapy.