[RubyRae]

My T has 3 FB profiles,one is professional,a personal one and another personal one exclusively for a hobby he does in his spare time.

I have been visiting all 3 of them since they're not private.Something I've noticed is on his personal profile(non hobby one),if he doesn't get any likes or comments on something he posts,the next day it's no longer there.I' m not sure if he hides them from his timeline,changes who he shares them with so they're no longer public or if he deletes them,but they're always gone.He doesn't do that on the other 2 profiles,as a matter of fact there's hardly any likes or comments at all on them,but they don't end up missing the next day.

I can't help but think wow,it must bother him to not get likes or comments on his personal profile.Is he afraid someone will look at it and he won't seem 'popular' or well liked?He seems like such a confident(sometimes cocky) man,it really surprised me to see that he does this.

Maybe I shouldn't judge him for this,but I am,and it just proves that we don't really know our T's like we think we do,we just see what we want to,what they present during sessions.

[DodgersMom]

just so you know, the more you look, the more likely you will show up for "people you may know" on their end...

that being said, who knows. i know a few ppl like that. they probably figure it isn't worth bothering with if no one is interested.

[RubyRae]

He knows I snoop,I accidentally clicked like once while doing it then unliked,realized he would have recieved a notification for it anyway so told him about it.

Hmmm,I wonder what his wife thinks when I show up on her 'people you may know' list....

[DodgersMom]

LOL wow you are brave, I'd never admit although I only looked once when I was looking him up before we met.

Seems weird to me to look now but I remember nothing really public anyway.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by DodgersMom

LOL wow you are brave, I'd never admit although I only looked once when I was looking him up before we met. .

Really felt like I had no choice but to admit it since I accidentally clicked like.I told him "I was having a rough time and was searching for you and accidentally clicked like".I thought he actually looked disappointed that it was an accident though and that I didn't really like his post.

[captgut]

Once i was drunk and liked his post. I unliked it immediately, he was offline so he didn't recieved notification. But i felt (and feel) guilty anyway
Maybe I should have told him

[Sunflower123]

I've never really thought of looking up my therapist on Facebook. Don't know why just haven't.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by captgut

Once i was drunk and liked his post. I unliked it immediately, he was offline so he didn't recieved notification. But i felt (and feel) guilty anyway
Maybe I should have told him

Wouldn't he have still got the notification once he was online?

[captgut]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Wouldn't he have still got the notification once he was online?

I don't know about FB, we're using VK.
And if someone removes his like while you're offline, you won't see it.

Unless you turned on special notifications in mobile app. I hope he didn't

[RubyRae]

I wonder how often our T's look up clients,just to get a glimpse of who we really are.I'm pretty sure mine looked at my FB when I first started therapy.I changed my privacy settings after I realized it.

If they don't want us snooping then they shouldn't have all their stuff public.

[healed84]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I wonder how often our T's look up clients,just to get a glimpse of who we really are.I'm pretty sure mine looked at my FB when I first started therapy.I changed my privacy settings after I realized it.

If they don't want us snooping then they shouldn't have all their stuff public.

My t has admitted to looking at my fb.. it's easy. I like something on his profession fb page like an article he posts- and he gets. Notification that I liked something. So, why wouldn't he look ya know? He knows I have seen his page, but he keeps it pretty locked down and is firm about not being friends with his clients on fb. I am friends with ha wife though, so I do see posts he tags his wife in.

[southernsky]

Yeah, I think it's pretty common for therapists to look up clients and clients to look up therapists. I think we're all curious about what other people are really like. You really shouldn't post things on FB that you aren't comfortable with the public seeing or knowing about, so i don't see it as an invasion of privacy to simply look. Don't try to interact with them on FB without asking about it first though.

[Electric76]

Sometimes I post things on Facebook and second guess if its actually funny, or if someone might get offended, or is it too personal? I get anxious for a little while but it is soothed when I get a couple likes, especially if they're not from people who just "like" everything. When there's no likes I don't care about that in itself but the original anxiety is heightened until I eventually take it down. His personal account his posts probably are closer to heart and true self, and can make him feel more vulnerable

[brillskep]

I can't speak for anyone else, but my experience with a personal facebook account is that there are things I won't tolerate there, like certain types of comments. I wouldn't delete those comments or friends on a professional website or profile, but my personal profile is like my home. I choose whom and what I let in. So who knows what personal policy your therapist has. But speaking about your therapy, if this goes beyond a sense of curiosity and it bothers or unsettles you in any way (or if you just resonate with something), I suggest you bring it up in therapy. Otherwise it will be something unspoken between the two of you that will influence your therapy.

Why are you trolling your T's Facebook repeatedly in the first place?

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Why are you trolling your T's Facebook repeatedly in the first place?

Was that question for me?I'm assuming it is.

I do it simply because I want to and because I can.I'm curious what he's like outside of the therapy office,what he's really like when he's not wearing his therapist hat.

It's also comforting at times to look at his photos when I'm struggling.Sometimes that's enough for me and I can get by without contacting him.

Originally Posted by DodgersMom

just so you know, the more you look, the more likely you will show up for "people you may know" on their end...

that being said, who knows. i know a few ppl like that. they probably figure it isn't worth bothering with if no one is interested.

Wait,.so people you look up constantly will show on your Facebook people you may know. So when I get that list "people you may know" its people looking at your page.? I thought it worked through friends of friends. So say Im friends with Bob for example and Bob friends will show on my "people you may know" I thought it worked that way.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by TeaFruit

Wait,.so people you look up constantly will show on your Facebook people you may know. So when I get that list "people you may know" its people looking at your page.? I thought it worked through friends of friends. So say Im friends with Bob for example and Bob friends will show on my "people you may know" I thought it worked that way.

I always thought it worked through friends of friends too and why it says "people you may know",with the assumption if you know a person,chances are you will know their friends too.

I was surprised one day when my therapist,his wife and child showed up on my list.Was that because I look at my T's or because he's looked at mine?

I'm confused how it works now.

[RubyRae]

This from FB help center:

What is People You May Know?
People You May Know are people on Facebook that you might know. We show you people based on mutual friends, work and education information, networks you’re part of, contacts you’ve imported and many other factors

I wonder what the "many other factors" actually are.

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I always thought it worked through friends of friends too and why it says "people you may know",with the assumption if you know a person,chances are you will know their friends too.

I was surprised one day when my therapist,his wife and child showed up on my list.Was that because I look at my T's or because he's looked at mine?

I'm confused how it works now.

Same, Im confused now as well.
My T has never showed up on my list. But I don't want me to show up on there list.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by TeaFruit

Same, Im confused now as well.
My T has never showed up on my list. But I don't want me to show up on there list.

Just as long as there's no way my T can know exactly how often I snoop on his I am ok with showing up on his list.

My T knows I snoop already,he has no problem with it,he just said "whatever helps".