Therapist's family vs. clients

I'm with you...my jealousy is killing me

This is a non issue for me. I am aware my pdoc has at least one teenaged boy simply because a function I attended came up in conversation and my pdoc said the boy performed there.

Jealousy? Nah.

this is interesting though. My father is an Anglican (Episcopal) Priest. He gets to know some parishoners rather closely. On more than one occasion he has had to get others involved or even change parishes on account of one or more members of the congregations become rather obsessed and possessive with him. He has spoken of one such time in the past when I was a small child that the woman's behaviour regarding my mother and I got rather worrisome and the police had to get involved.

Thank you so much for this thread. I needed to read this! I was never jealous of T A's kids or her husband. I actually kind of felt sorry for them at times. :/ Never had those feelings with T B either, but I know her husband dislikes me very much. She wanted to be combo T/friend and she spent SO MUCH time with me that he would call and start yelling. Now he hates me because I reported her to the licensing board. He is very unstable though, so I don't think much of it. But now with T C....yeah...definitely jealous of his daughter. I think it's because I never had a father in my life and he's such an awesome dad. (We'll get around to my daddy issues eventually.) He is younger than I am by ~2-3 years so it's definitely weird for me. I'm not sure if he is married, he doesn't wear a ring, but I don't think I would be jealous of his partner. His other clients...yeah...I get a little pang of jealousy there too. He's been late to a lot of my appointments because he's been stuck on the phone with an "emergency" call, but the couple of times I had him on the phone it was less than 5 minutes. I felt he couldn't get me off the phone fast enough. So my brain automatically goes to the place that says he cares about everyone else so much more than me. It's a terrible feeling and I need to work on that too.

I don´t feel resentful (or felt, I don´t see that T anymore) but I did feel jealous and as I saw here just for 12 sessions I never got to know if she had any children or not. I know she lived by her own but perhaps she had a partner, only that they weren´t living together.

One time I kind of understood she probably were to see some grandkids as she took a week off during autumn when there always is a school holiday here. But she didn´t mention that straight out she had grandkids.

The main thing for me seeing a T having her own practise and understanding she´ve had at least one boyfriend or husband, she probably has grandkids is that I feel inferior to her. It´s not that I resent her family members or think a lot about them but more the whole picture, her having a much more complete life than I do.

It can be an obstacle to therapy for me I think, that I feel like it´s of no use to try as I won´t ever succeed like the T has.

No, not jealous. I know what I get in therapy is t in her work role and not who she is away from the office. I know she is quite moody and judgmental (not in the office of clients but her speaking of her hubby and other people in her life) She has kids but they are grown and have moved far away. I know I wouldn't want to be ts friend if she wasn't my t, so no jealous of anyone in her life.

I doubt her kids had ever been jealous of her time at work. She only works 2 days a week after cutting back from 3 days a week, and she has always taken generous time off for vacations and such. I also know she leaves her work at work and doesn't talk about/think about work at home. She told me that.

I don't know that I would use the word jealousy to describe how I feel about RoboTs family. I think envy would be more accurate. I see the loving manner in which he speaks about his wife and children, and I wish that my parents could express their feelings in a similar way.

I don't get the sense that his family is resentful of his profession, and he makes it clear to his clients that family is a huge priority for him. It says on his website that he first started private practice ages ago, but stopped to take care of his children and support his wife's career development. That's what I envy the most.

I think about T's wife a lot and compare myself to her a lot - which is ridiculous, since I barely know anything about her.

I am extremely jealous of her. Feels like I'm being stabbed sometimes.

It's completely irrational and I hate myself for it.

I get very jealous when t talks about her children which is all of the time. She tells me they are going on holidays. They are doing their masters, they have broken up with boyfriends. Had another child, moved away etc... I wish that my t was more blank slate because the more I know the more it hurts

I get very jealous when t talks about her children which is all of the time. She tells me they are going on holidays. They are doing their masters, they have broken up with boyfriends. Had another child, moved away etc... I wish that my t was more blank slate because the more I know the more it hurts

Envy is the best word to describe my feelings, too. I am envious that he has a family and that he can sustain positive, loving relationships. I'm not there yet.

Ok, now i'm jealous of his wife.
That's strange, because my transference is mostly paternal, not erotic.

As DodgersMom said: "not because of anything romantic or sexual but because she gets to have an amazing guy like him by her side in life."

This.

I hope she understands how lucky she is. Sigh.
I know he's not perfect, but he's amazing.

Is my transference becoming erotic?? I'm confused

I know from facebook that my therapist is married and has a young two year old daughter. I don't feel jealous of them, but just wish that I could have had a father like him.