The Couch 150: Ceci n'est pas un couch

atisketatasket · Aug 11, 2017, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Sometimes they have virtual cookies.

I always keep a well-stocked virtual bar with non-alcoholic options in my pocket.

Aug 11, 2017, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by daisydid

Hi, couch. Hugs to all who want or need. I'm also missing Squirrel.

I impulsively scheduled an eye exam after T tomorrow. There's enough time between that my eyes should recover from crying.

I know I say this every week, but I don't want to see T tomorrow. The only things I feel like talking about I don't want to talk about. I don't want to talk about feeling rejected by him and that I think he hates me. Because he'll say that he doesn't hate me, and I won't believe him.

I feel you there - not wanting to talk about feeling rejected by t - the other day when i read that stuff to my t, part of it was my thoughts about what if she said she didn't want to work with me anymore and man I laid my freakin' heart right on the table in between us with that. i felt so vulnerable and that was why I sobbed all the way through the stuff I told her. kind of crazy-sounding to say that i felt more vulnerable telling her that stuff than i did with any of the childhood um stuff we spent so much time working through. I don't get it how this therapeutic relationship is so damn hard and convoluted sometimes.

Aug 11, 2017, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

I feel you there - not wanting to talk about feeling rejected by t - the other day when i read that stuff to my t, part of it was my thoughts about what if she said she didn't want to work with me anymore and man I laid my freakin' heart right on the table in between us with that. i felt so vulnerable and that was why I sobbed all the way through the stuff I told her. kind of crazy-sounding to say that i felt more vulnerable telling her that stuff than i did with any of the childhood um stuff we spent so much time working through. I don't get it how this therapeutic relationship is so damn hard and convoluted sometimes.

Yeah, that's probably a large part of the reason that I don't want to delve into any of this with him. I don't want to feel vulnerable because I don't feel safe being vulnerable with him. I opened up and was very honest about my feelings, and his response was "that's great and all, but I'm not the only therapist who can help you. I'll find you someone new," which I took to mean that he doesn't want to work with me anymore. I know it's not what he meant, but it's how I feel.

healed84 · Aug 11, 2017, 08:28 PM

I'm not dying it's just anxiety.. what I am repeating to myself tonight. Life feels very overwhelming right now, and I am trying to cope on my own.

I hope everyone else is having a Friday night.

junkDNA · Aug 11, 2017, 08:33 PM

I think I should stop seeing my T

anais_anais · Aug 11, 2017, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by junkDNA

I think I should stop seeing my T

What's up?

junkDNA · Aug 11, 2017, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

What's up?

I wrote about it in my thread

LonesomeTonight · Aug 11, 2017, 08:51 PM

Hugs to you, Healed...

Aug 11, 2017, 08:55 PM

I just learned from my sister that the pastor who married my h and I back in 1998 passed away this morning. Pastor Tom was the Godliest man I ever met. I loved him, respected him, and I could have listened to him preach for hours on end. He didn't just "talk religion", he truly lived his faith and it was beautiful to see. He was a gifted minister and so dear to me. I looked forward to seeing him every time I visited back 'home' and he always had a big smile for me and would wrap me in his arms in a big bear hug every time. I loved him a lot, and am so very sad to hear of his passing. I will never forget - at the reception after our wedding, he, dignified pastor that he was, joined everyone else in balancing his spoon on his nose. I must find that picture.

healed84 · Aug 11, 2017, 09:24 PM

I've been in therapy for 5 years... and still haven't learned how to not let emotions totally overwhelm me.

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Originally Posted by healed84

I've been in therapy for 5 years... and still haven't learned how to not let emotions totally overwhelm me.

I haven't learned that in almost 6 years of therapy either.

My t used to exhasperatingly (is that a word?) say to me "Art, you are NOT your feelings!"

I am too.

Aug 11, 2017, 09:33 PM

Has anyone used eggs to wash their hair?

anais_anais · Aug 11, 2017, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Has anyone used eggs to wash their hair?

Not to wash but as an ingredient in a hair mask before washing, yes. My favorite is one egg, half an overripe avocado, and a little olive oil.

Calilady · Aug 11, 2017, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by anais_anais

Not to wash but as an ingredient in a hair mask before washing, yes. My favorite is one egg, half an overripe avocado, and a little olive oil.

Mmmmm sounds like the makings of a good salad. Lol

Aug 11, 2017, 09:42 PM

Reminds me of those shampoos from the 70's or so "Gee, Your Hair Smells Terrific" and "Body On Tap" supposed to be like a beer shampoo lol I used to love both of them lol blast from the past man

The Couch 150: Ceci n'est pas un couch

Aug 11, 2017, 09:42 PM

sorry that was so huge

Aug 11, 2017, 09:43 PM

omg and lemon up! i loved that one!

The Couch 150: Ceci n'est pas un couch

Aug 11, 2017, 09:44 PM

I am not familiar with hair masks, what are they supposed to do?

Aug 11, 2017, 09:47 PM

I just ran out of shampoo and washed my hair with just water and it feels fine, I was wondering on shampoo-less alternatives and came across egg. Apparently it is a wonder for hair with grease removing properties etc.
I have very greasy hair and I am surprised that just water seems to remove the grease and lots of srubbing

Aug 11, 2017, 09:49 PM

Anais did you say your dinosaur ocarina went missing?

healed84 · Aug 11, 2017, 11:00 PM

Trying to think on t's words to me in an email earlier this week: "I can stay with the sadness without getting lost in it or stuck
there." Obviously easier said than done, but trying to be conscious of how I am feeling and not letting it get the best of me.