[NYC78]

Dear folks,

this place has been since a while a place of support, as some of ou have been reading I am dealing with grieving because of Therapist is terminating me in a couple of month...I want ideas for last sessions I would like to be creative...

but I don't enjoy to paint or draw or to make something at home like a craft.

What do you think to exchange letters we write in last session, don't know if I can ask her to do this...was thinking about listening to music with her or ???

Mindful ideas needed

btw: Relationship was 6 years long

[Amyjay]

Ohhh that's a long time. I like the idea of writing to each other because it is something you can keep. I am terminating with my t soon too because she is going on maternity leave. Your idea of writing letters to each other has given me an idea about what I might do. I might take in a notebook to write notes back and forth to each other in session. Or something like that.

[NYC78]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

Ohhh that's a long time. I like the idea of writing to each other because it is something you can keep. I am terminating with my t soon too because she is going on maternity leave. Your idea of writing letters to each other has given me an idea about what I might do. I might take in a notebook to write notes back and forth to each other in session. Or something like that.

Thank you I have this idea in my mind and I am sorry you going through termination too, do you go back after maternity leave ?

[Amyjay]

I don't know i haven't asked her if I can but I might ask her. I am in the process of transitioning to a new t but it is hard. There is a great deal of inner resistance to it.

[NYC78]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I don't know i haven't asked her if I can but I might ask her. I am in the process of transitioning to a new t but it is hard. There is a great deal of inner resistance to it.

Oh yes I agree with you, in my case I build up trust and attachment, I thought I can handle it on my own that one day I can terminate but thats not the case, I wonder if ever someone could manage this inner resistance?

[Chummy2]

Your idea of exchanging letters is a good idea. I wished I got a letter or card or something from prevT. I was too afraid to ask her. I did give her a card.

You should just ask her for a letter. Don't make the same mistake as me. If a letter from her can help you with the termination process. Maybe you can ask her in a session some sessions before the last session. Then she can prepare herself a bit. Or maybe she wants to write it before the last session.

Somewhere in the beginning of therapy with current T, we spoke about termination and in what ways you can sat goodbye to a T. She said she always writes a letter to the client. She also said that some clients want to take a photo with her and she allows that. That's a positive thing about current T, she really gets that termination can be hard for some clients.

[NYC78]

Originally Posted by Chummy2

Your idea of exchanging letters is a good idea. I wished I got a letter or card or something from prevT. I was too afraid to ask her. I did give her a card.

You should just ask her for a letter. Don't make the same mistake as me. If a letter from her can help you with the termination process. Maybe you can ask her in a session some sessions before the last session. Then she can prepare herself a bit. Or maybe she wants to write it before the last session.

Somewhere in the beginning of therapy with current T, we spoke about termination and in what ways you can sat goodbye to a T. She said she always writes a letter to the client. She also said that some clients want to take a photo with her and she allows that. That's a positive thing about current T, she really gets that termination can be hard for some clients.

Thank you for the encouragement, your idea and I believe it is some form of attachment for a the first couple of weeks, it is pure grief I will maybe experience to this meaningful relationship and I am sure it would help me in some sorts.

Not sure if she would be up to it, I am sure she ask me: Why is this important to you, why you need to hold on to something I have been writing when I am already in your heard? Hard questions to answers and I better prepare myself.

I am sorry you don't have a letter or similar object from your fTherapist.