[Lilo93]

I've been seeing my therapist for a year and in the first few intense sessions he used bodywork/touch therapy with me and let me hug him when I felt distressed. We haven't done any bodywork/hugged in session in maybe 8 months as most of need for physical comfort was around my inner inner child unmet needs. He always hugs me tightly after session so I know it's something he's obviously still ok with.

I'm seeing him next week and have been having really bad and intense feelings about some events that happened a few years ago. I feel gross and disgusted with myself. I feel like if I want a hug from him I have to go through all the. As feelings I have before I can ask him for a hug rather than just going in and saying "I've been having a really intense few weeks, please can I have a hug".

Which option do you guys think is best?
(Would be helpful if you guys use touch therapy/hugs with your therapist)

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'd just ask your T. I give a hug to my T after every session. It lets me know that everything is okay between us.

i'd just ask.

i'm so mad at myself that i didn't hug t before i left my last session. which now might have been my last session.

[Argonautomobile]

I think it's fine to just ask without going into great detail about your intense few weeks. I don't personally use touch in therapy (the very idea makes me feel violent) but I think it's nice that other people can express affection in this way. I'm glad your T has been helpful and I hope you feel better soon.

[BayBrony]

I would just ask. I don't necessarily agree with the prevailing therapy idea that out need for touch can be "talked out" . It's a primal biological need. I don't see how talking does anything much for it, anymore than talking about eating will satisfy hunger

[DP_2017]

just ask

i hug every session with mine. many of them are ok with it if you are asking