[hopealwayz]

His lack of responses to emails that were deserving of a response made me feel his lack of concern.

Then, I had to call the pharmacist 4 times ( 3 times for job application question problems and the 4th time was asking about a medicine dosage.) I was embarrassed to bother him so much. Same with my therapist who wasn't even responding to anything. I can't believe my therapist didn't care.

[Calilady]

How long had you been with him? I'm on the hunt for a new T, too.

[Fuzzybear]

[hopealwayz]

Only about almost 3 months with intermittent appointments due to not having enough money.

[hopealwayz]

I haven't gotten too much support over my therapist. Everyone probably still thinks I love ❤️ the pharmacist. He wouldn't date me because I'm too unattractive. But, if he could see my heart, he'd know how precious he is to me and how proud I am to know him.

[DelusionsDaily]

Hope, I read your posts. I want to be supportive. I guess my suggestion is to talk to him about these things. There's probably a reason. Maybe you should discuss...again(if you did it in the beginning) the parameters of your client/t relationship with him. Ask him why he didn't respond to the emails in question. My guess, and I don't know, so its really a shot in the dark, but it might have to do with the number of and or nature of the emails, given the intermittent nature of sessions and newness of your client/t relationship. But only he would have those answers for you. The only reason I suggest talking to him, is maybe you can renegotiate the relationship. I'm sorry you are struggling with another T. I hope you get some answers or find one you can work with regularly.

ETA: I Think ignoring the emails was rude either way. However I think it still beneficial to find out why.

[zoiecat]

What about the woman therapist you said you liked a couple posts ago I know you mentioned that both of them are willing to give you discounted rate since you don't have insurance and finances are an issue for you maybe it is best to just cut down to one therapist.

[hopealwayz]

I just don't understand. Even when I wrote him and said goodbye, he never even responded
to that. It hurts.

[scorpiosis37]

Did you discuss with your T what his policy is on emails? Some Ts don't allow them, use them only for scheduling purposes, or allow emails but don't respond to them, or allow them up to a point-- but change course if they perceive the client is overusing email. It may be that he has boundaries around email use that he feels you violated. Or maybe his policy is not to respond. Do you know his boundaries? Maybe he does care but is following a specific policy. Maybe you could ask him about this instead of just quitting? He might have a reason.

[hopealwayz]

He said that I could write them and he'd respond.

[zoiecat]

How many emails have you sent since your last session? How many of those has he responded to? I understand he said that he will accept emails and respond but if it's becoming excessive he may stop I'm not saying that's what's happening but that is what happened to your previous psychiatrist it does seem to be a pattern. Like others have stated it may be something you want to discuss with him before quitting therapy.

[elisewin]

I remember you saying just a few days ago you have a great T. Maybe he is worth trying to go through this with? Not by emailing but in session, asking him directly about the things you wrote here.

[Anastasia~]

I was really interested when you told us you were taking the pharmacy exam. I go to the pharmacy all the time. What kind of things did you have to learn? Tell me things I may not know? How is your studying coming along? Writing about things helps you learn it. I am interested and am also glad that you got a job. Have you started your job yet?

[hopealwayz]

I feel like my T abandoned me.

[ScarletPimpernel]

You might feel that way, but he didn't. You left him without trying to work things out.

[AllHeart]

So in the past, this t always responded to your emails in a timely fashion? And then he just recently stopped responding to your emails altogether, without any explanation?

If the answers are "yes" and "yes" I can definitely understand why you feel abandoned. That'd be pretty crappy for a t to change the boundaries without warning or discussing with the client ahead of time. I don't know how long it's been since you sent the emails, but, is it possible this t is sick, on vacation, or having email/computer trouble and hasn't had the opportunity to respond yet?

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

You might feel that way, but he didn't. You left him without trying to work things out.

I agree with this. If we want other people to treat us differently from what bothers us, we need to do our own part of the respect and change.

[Anastasia~]

Why would he abandon you, in your opinion? What makes you think he did.?

[toomanycats]

I do have to say that, I'm not sure what kind of response you're expecting, but your T ethically cannot do anything but accept your termination. If he's an ethical therapist, he's not going to argue with you over it or plead with you to come in.