[ilikecats]

I really want a picture of me and T together. I think I'm going to ask her today if we can take one. I'm nervous though. What if she says no and I get disappointed? My T and I have the kind of relationship where this is something I feel like she'll say yes to. We've given each other things before, and she's pretty chill in general. The only thing I've wanted from her before that she said no to was hugging. So I think if I ask, she will say yes. But I'm just not sure. It makes me so sad that she won't hug me. What if she says no to this too, and then I'm sad about that as well. But I'd love to have a picture of us. What should I do?

Gosh I wish I knew the answer. I'd like the same thing. My t does hug, but I feel like she'd say no to the pic. So I won't ask. I wish you the best.

[doyoutrustme]

Only one way to find out, I'm afraid. :/

[DP_2017]

My T has allowed me to take several pics of him. no selfies of us yet but i do plan to ask at some point, go for it

[RubyRae]

Selfie with T...that's actually a good idea,I think,for those that struggle in between sessions,or for those like me that just feel comforted by things like that when they're feeling down.

[satsuma]

If you want to ask then I think you should go ahead and ask. I hope that if she says no she will be sympathetic to your feelings and be able to explain and maybe come up with an alternative.

(I personally would find this hugely awkward - I mean taking a selfie with T - but we are all different!)

[justbreathe1994]

If you struggle with feeling connected between sessions, it could be a helpful coping tool/transitional object. My T and I have been doing a lot of difficult attachment work and she was okay with taking a picture with me on my phone and with my poloroid. I think it could be a helpful therapy tool if your T is comfortable with it... Maybe she'd be more comfortable if it assisted you in some way in your therapy work and you talked to her about that before asking?

[growlycat]

I like this idea. In an ideal world I'd love to see what everyone here and their ts looked like together. You can read a lot into a photo!!

[SalingerEsme]

It is a great idea, but there is no way mine would say yes. My T is rocksolid on the concept that it is in no way a "social" relationship, and would think of selfies as socializing .

It cant hurt to ask. The worst she can say is no. You wont know if you dont ask. My therapist and I have dozens of pictures and quite a few videos of us together. Theyre fun for both of us to look at.

[DP_2017]

Originally Posted by growlycat

I like this idea. In an ideal world I'd love to see what everyone here and their ts looked like together. You can read a lot into a photo!!

I don't have a selfie yet but there is one of us both, kinda, we are hugging, you can see if it you want.

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

It cant hurt to ask. The worst she can say is no. You wont know if you dont ask. My therapist and I have dozens of pictures and quite a few videos of us together. Theyre fun for both of us to look at.

Video? Interesting. doing what? Cool idea.

[growlycat]

That's a generous offer I just want to respect your privacy.

[captgut]

Originally Posted by growlycat

In an ideal world I'd love to see what everyone here and their ts looked like together.

Haha, me too
I feel like I can share my photo here on PC...on the couch... but never T's, because I don't want to share him with anyone

[Moment]

Risk being sad! It's the only way to get what you want.
That said, why do you want the photo? What will you do with it? What would it mean if she said yes? What if she said no? Etc. etc. etc.
It is a lot easier to just snap a photo than to talk about the meaning of it.

[Jessica Hazlitt]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

My T has allowed me to take several pics of him. no selfies of us yet but i do plan to ask at some point, go for it

Holy-moley! How did you even bring that up? Were they for something specific? I couldn't even imagine broaching the subject. My T and I use touch all the time, but I think photos would be a no no.

[DP_2017]

Originally Posted by Jessica Hazlitt

Holy-moley! How did you even bring that up? Were they for something specific? I couldn't even imagine broaching the subject. My T and I use touch all the time, but I think photos would be a no no.

Via email, haha, took away the awkwardness. Yes it was for specific things but he was completely ok with it each time.

Originally Posted by growlycat

I like this idea. In an ideal world I'd love to see what everyone here and their ts looked like together. You can read a lot into a photo!!

now i have the idea to photoshop a pic of t (from her psychologytoday.com profile) and a pic of me and try to make it look like a selfie haha

except i'm not that good with photoshop and i don'teven have actual photoshop i just have an old version of paint shop pro

but i might try it just to see!

yeah and that's not creepy at all....

[Miswimmy1]

I LOVE this idea. I wish I had a pic of my ex-T and I. I definitely think it would have helped keep myself grounded in-between sessions (she traveled a lot so we often skipped sessions or had to just do our session via phone call). Now, I wish that I had a pic of her to remember her by. I worry that one day, I won't be able to conjure up what she looks like in my mind

[Jessica Hazlitt]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

Via email, haha, took away the awkwardness. Yes it was for specific things but he was completely ok with it each time.

Wonder if my T would buy a "charity nude calendar" excuse lol