Have you ever disappointed your T? How and why?

I feel like I've disappointed my T recently. She must be frustrated. She has been helping me find ways to handle my non-compliance with medication, and yet, I keep failing at it. I just end up right back where I started... I take her advice, use it for like 2-3 weeks, then stop using it. And since I have bipolar disorder, well, the med withdrawals always trigger an episode, and then I have to be honest with her about what I did so that I can get help again. But she probably feels like a broken record. *sigh*

It sucks. I feel like a failure and that I'm never going to get better because of my own stubbornness and laziness.

It's not his job to have expectations of me, other than payment. So it's not his job to be disappointed in me.

[atisketatasket]

They usually disappoint me.

[satsuma]

I think everything about me is a disappointment to my T.

[MatBell]

I feel like it when I haven’t done the exercises we talk about.

I wouldn't equate frustration to disappointment. I see those as two different things. Frustration is pretty normal for all of us, even therapists, but it really isn't a judgment. Disappointment is a judgment.

I've had therapists get frustrated with me for very similar reasons you mention, but I really never sensed that they were actually disappointed. Perhaps that is more about your feelings about yourself than actually what your therapist feels about you. Maybe?

[stopdog]

I hire them - they have no place in being disappointed or proud of me - or anything else. They do not get a stake in my life. I do not think a therapist has ever been disappointed but if so - I would consider it not my problem if the therapist is

[Swimmersusan]

Yeah prob a few times a session! She's never said I have though, and maybe it's more that I'm disappointed in myself so assuming she must be aswell, the times I have asked her she has always said I haven't though.

[junkDNA]

Yes I disappointed him recently by a pretty severe relapse on drugs

[ruh roh]

I don't see how a therapist would or could be disappointed in someone. Maybe it's different for others, but mine has said she does not have personal feelings toward me, and I would put disappointment in the personal feelings category.

I frustrated my former T toward the end of our work together. We talked about it a couple of times. His frustration lied in the fact that we didn’t have much time left and he wanted the time we did have to be productive. He was frustrated that he didn’t know how things would turn out with me. If only he could see me now...

I know I made him feel a lot of other things as well but I don’t know that disappointment was one of them. Probably not. He was good at the unconditional positive regard thing.

[mostlylurking]

I put "other" because I did something I shouldn't have done -- invaded his privacy via some rather sophisticated internet information gathering -- but when I confessed I think his primary emotion was anger, not disappointment. He looked pissed for like a quarter of a second, corrected his expression back to neutral, and said something like "Yes, I wish you hadn't done that, but..." and stayed calm. Not sure if that would fit in this concept of disappointment or not.

Yes I believe that she was disappointed in me when I quit via email during our recent rupture. (ETA actually I guess time has really flown it's been 3 months since then holy cow) Of course said quitting didn't last very long and we talked it through. But at that time yes I believe so.

[Erebos]

All the time, He used to make plans for our sessions, And express his regret that I didn't show.
Now, I just get, ' the look'.

[Myrto]

I don't understand how a therapist could be disappointed in a client. We hire them for a service, if anything it's clients who get to be disappointed, not the other way around. I would be really annoyed if I found out my therapist was disappointed in me because it would mean she somehow has a plan that I need to follow. But I'm the one in charge, not her.

[Sarmas]

I’m sure I have but she’s disappointed me as well.

[annielovesbacon]

My therapist doesn't express disappointment because that would be passing a judgment on me, and that's not her job or her place as my therapist. BUT, my therapist is human, and I'm quite sure I've disappointed her before, even if she did not show it. She gives me coping skills and resources and everything she can, yet I still choose to make bad decisions that plunge me into a deeper depression. I'd imagine that's disappointing to her to watch me ignore her advice only to harm myself.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I've asked my T. She's never been disappointed in me. If I have failed at something (in my eyes), she will tell me that it's just part of my process.

I went backwards in my trust in her just a few months ago. I thought that disappointed her. She told me that she doesn't see it as me going backwards. She looks at it as have I improved in the last week? If so, even just a little, that's progress. If not, we just need to figure out what will help me to move forward. So there's isn't any disappointment.

She has been frustrated and upset with me though...when I told her I didn't like her. But I think that's the only time.