[colorsofthewind12]

Should therapists open up the Pandora’s box if the patient didn’t initiate it or had no interest in exploring a certain topic.

My therapist, who always lets me lead, decides to bring up a point/topic I had no interest in exploring. It’s an important topic and was sort of related to our discussion, but I didn’t want to go there as it brings up a lot of difficult feelings that I need to process and figure out.

I have this project that needs to get done. I consciously/unconsciously didn’t bring up said topic because I didn’t want it to distract me from my project. I also didn’t want to feel the anxiety that this topic brings up for me.

I am so ****ing enraged at him right now. There is a part of me that respects him for challenging me in that way, but there is another part of me that goes, umm, timing!!!! Maybe now is not the best time to bring that up. ****. I also have a suspicion as to why he might’ve brought it up, and I think it stems from his own stuff.

I am soo angry. I want to sabotage the project I am working on so badly.

[Keyplayer]

Hi colorsofthewind12 ,

I am sorry to read that you are troubled by your assignment , me too , CBT ?

I would do your best , I believe that the more your therapist knows about you , the better you will be.

If you decide to do the project , I would do it the best you can , show your T you are not easily swayed and you can handle what ever comes your way.

If on the other hand you plan to end the project , then end it.

I have learned a couple of things , your T wants to help you because that is there job.
Also your T wants to make sure you are OK and are ready to take the next step , whatever YOUR next step is , your T should be there to support you and guide you.

All my best

Keyplayer. 

[peaches100]

Hi Colorsofthewind,

Did you clearly tell your therapist that you did not want to explore the topic? If you did, I think they overstepped a boundary with you. On the other hand, if you only gave minor signals, such as seeming a bit uncomfortable, but didn't come out and tell your t not to "go there," they may have not realized that it was a boundary you were setting and thought maybe you just needed a bit of a nudge to open up.

Either way, it's very important that you let your t know that this upset you.