[PinkyDoo]

Has anyone's therapist ever cried with you or because of a story you were telling during your session? I imagine it must be hard for some to not cry when hearing peoples' stories. At my last session, my therapist looked like she was about to cry when I was telling my story, but she did not. Forgive me if this has been asked and answered. The search turns up many, many posts that have nothing to do with my question.

[DP_2017]

mine did. the first time i broke down. it was about 6.5 months into therapy. we hugged and later we talked about it and i seen him take his glasses off and rub his eyes. i later asked him and he admitted to crying "because some parts of what i had written, really touched him" and i think in part because i had wanted so long to be free to express that emotion.

mine has. she has a big heart.

[MrsDuckL]

Mine briefly teared up once. I saw his eyes get red and I could tell he was fighting back tears when I was telling a particularly painful story. It was touching. My therapist had the tears before I could, I have such a hard time expressing emotions in front of others.

[Amyjay]

My ex therapist got tears in her eyes a few times but never had tears fall. So I guess that doesn't count.

[itjustis]

My exT cried or got teary eyed during quite difficult sessions. I appreciated the emotion from her but a part of me would worry about her too.

New T hasn’t cried but we’re only for sessions in so who knows.

[toomanycats]

An ex therapist cried.
And that's why he's an ex therapist.
I need my therapist to NOT cry. I do not need to be taking care of them/comforting them over my trauma.

[annielovesbacon]

neither my therapist nor I are really "criers" (we have talked about this lol). I have come close to crying in therapy which is saying a lot because I almost never cry. But if my T has come close to crying, I haven't been able to tell

[doyoutrustme]

No idea, I don't make enough eye contact

[HALLIEBETH87]

When i admitted is held a weapon to myself the day before and had no
Emotion about it I looked up and noticed he was tearing up. He's very caring and kind

[TrailRunner14]

Originally Posted by toomanycats

An ex therapist cried.
And that's why he's an ex therapist.
I need my therapist to NOT cry. I do not need to be taking care of them/comforting them over my trauma.

Totally relate to this.

It would feel like I owed him something.

I would have to do something to make it better so he wouldn’t cry.

It would be very binding to me.

I would want to feel the comfort and connection of someone feeling my pain and distress, but at the same time it would feel like I had to fix it. Make it better. Make him stop crying.

[RaineD]

How can I make my therapist cry? Would really love to see that.

[Miswimmy1]

My ex-t cried multiple times. I honestly don't remember exactly what happened to prompt the tears. One had something to do with us reflecting back on how much progress I had made. We were comparing my present well-being to the state I had been in when I had first started seeing her and she cried remembering how difficult it had been for her to see me in so much emotional pain. One of the other times was when we were terminating. And she also cried once when I was crying about something.

To be honest, seeing my therapist cry when I cried was very unnerving. I know she's human too but to see her cry was like a reversal of roles sort of. I'm the one who is always a mess and she's the one who is the constant, solid supporter. The other times, it helped me realize that she really did care about me deeply and really had been invested in our relationship to a degree that I hadn't expected.