[BlueJeans00]

Whats normal terminate therapy?

I feel.what Im experiencing isnt right.
I recalled since beginning of this year that my thearpist will leave but I didn't know when. My thearpist told me.he won't leave and said I can go with them and they will give me discount.
About 1 months I was waiting for psycharaist come back from hoilday to.decide if its ok for me to go with my psychothearpist since the psychotherapist is leaving the system.
Then suddnely my psychotheaprist told me cant see me in one week and then I wrote a letter of things that upsetted me.
I have spoken to my psychothearpist about it before but I never felt it was sloved.
Anyway , I gave letter to my.keyworker then they gave it to my psychothearpist.
So just this week! I go to my appointment to see my psychothearpist. My therapist was 15 mins late and then he came and he put the letter on the table and said "we already spoken about this"
And told me next week will be last session. I wasnt told.advance or knew anything. It was.completely a slap on the face.

I said but you told me that if say you had a year therapy you have a month of the transession and then he said yes we.did orangise and waiting for the psycharaist. But it never happened no talking how.I felt about it or anything.

I left crying in the car and unable to drive home.
I have done self harm and my partner rang my keywoker out of concern I will.commint suicide.

I be honsent I never have felt more than determine to end my life since this experience with psychothearpist. It felt force upon me.

[Keyplayer]

Hi BlueJeans00 ,

I am sorry to hear you are down , I understand , I would most certainly feel the same way.

The only thing I can say is the sun may or may not shine this morning where you live , at least you may not see it if it`s cloudy.

But the sun is still shining , it just can`t get through the clouds , but if you do notice the sun , look at where you are and what you are doing. Think of how important you are.

Like that sun in the sky , me , you , we all matter.

Most of my life I have lived in fear , full of self doubt , low self-esteem , if any. mostly messed up. I too wanted to say goodbye , but I was curious about that sun.

It really is something because we don`t think about it , we are so tied up in our own mess , we forget to look out the window or walk out the front door.

There are too many adventures yet to be enjoyed , garb them , hold on tight , let life take you where life wants you to go , believe me , you are not going to stay in one place long , unless it makes you happy , in that case the sun is fine with that , and know where to find you.

Love the sun , the day , love the world around you , it is all yours , all you have to do is take it.

So do my this favor , rest easy , then look at life in a new light and life will surely smile back , because the light & life have just found a new friend.



I am here for you , I must sleep soon , but PM anytime.

Also please post about when you find today , we would all love to hear about it , and we are all here for you .



Take care

Keyplayer 

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by Keyplayer

Hi BlueJeans00 ,

I am sorry to hear you are down , I understand , I would most certainly feel the same way.

The only thing I can say is the sun may or may not shine this morning where you live , at least you may not see it if it`s cloudy.

But the sun is still shining , it just can`t get through the clouds , but if you do notice the sun , look at where you are and what you are doing. Think of how important you are.

Like that sun in the sky , me , you , we all matter.

Most of my life I have lived in fear , full of self doubt , low self-esteem , if any. mostly messed up. I too wanted to say goodbye , but I was curious about that sun.

It really is something because we don`t think about it , we are so tied up in our own mess , we forget to look out the window or walk out the front door.

There are too many adventures yet to be enjoyed , garb them , hold on tight , let life take you where life wants you to go , believe me , you are not going to stay in one place long , unless it makes you happy , in that case the sun is fine with that , and know where to find you.

Love the sun , the day , love the world around you , it is all yours , all you have to do is take it.

So do my this favor , rest easy , then look at life in a new light and life will surely smile back , because the light & life have just found a new friend.



I am here for you , I must sleep soon , but PM anytime.

Also please post about when you find today , we would all love to hear about it , and we are all here for you .



Take care

Keyplayer 

Thank you so much for your message.
it meant so much to me and a beautiful message you wrote.
I will probably print the message out and keep it in my oocket and read it when I feel sad.
Thank you.

Your right about the sun though.
Been going way before dinasour area so it is mysterious yet beautiful

Nothing you have ever described about your therapist or therapy has struck me as normal or okay. How your keyworker has not raised concerns about this therapist is extremely puzzling to me.
The first and most important thing is stabilising yourself. Take support wherever you can. It sounds like you have a supportive partner and a keyworker so keep using them for support while you get through this tough spell. Are you going to be assigned a new therapist? If so I do hope you are assigned somebody with more experience. Can you request no students?
At some point in the future you might want to think aboit making a complaint. Against the organisation, or the therapist or both. Given the complexity of your needs, I don't think you should have been assigned such an inexperienced therapist by the organisation, and in my opinion the actions you describe from him amount to abandonment.
Wishing you all the best at this difficult time.

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by Runcible Spoon

Nothing you have ever described about your therapist or therapy has struck me as normal or okay. How your keyworker has not raised concerns about this therapist is extremely puzzling to me.
The first and most important thing is stabilising yourself. Take support wherever you can. It sounds like you have a supportive partner and a keyworker so keep using them for support while you get through this tough spell. Are you going to be assigned a new therapist? If so I do hope you are assigned somebody with more experience. Can you request no students?
At some point in the future you might want to think aboit making a complaint. Against the organisation, or the therapist or both. Given the complexity of your needs, I don't think you should have been assigned such an inexperienced therapist by the organisation, and in my opinion the actions you describe from him amount to abandonment.
Wishing you all the best at this difficult time.

Apparnetly my keyworker has spoken to theaprist in the organization that a DBT agreed to take me in. But my keyworker told.me this and psychotheaprist knew this too but didnt told me until psycharaist got back from hoilday.
So I don't know what to think of this. Apparently my keyworker didn't know that.my psychotheaprist told me I could go with them and get discount

[Keyplayer]

Hi BlueJeans00 ,

Thank you so much for your kind words , I am so happy you found them useful and that they helped.

Sometimes people get that stupid piece of paper with a degree stamped on , only to find they really suck at there job. To be a good therapist you must give of yourself 110% of yourself to your client.

In my mind a therapist needs to understand , inquire , ask why ( but never judge ) and truly want to help. The final most important of all is a great therapist needs to be an Empath , they need to look for eye movement and body language and know there client is in deep turmoil and stress.

If they can not do that , they really need to take a closer look at there profession.

Of course that is just my opinion , it may not count , I am not a therapist.

Take care and thanks again , if you need me PM me !! , you made my day

Later !

Keyplayer. 