[BlueJeans00]

Whats a normal progress of having termination in psychotherapy after having a year of therapy?

Im just asking cause my psychothearpist just told me
Last week that our last session is this week. I wasn't even told in advance that it be our last session next week.
I was told since beginning of therapy and this year that
I could go with them, because they told me they going to pirvate practice.
They even told me there superadvisor agree I should go with them and that they give me discount.

Suddnely last week was completely a flip and slap on the face. I did wondered if they made the next week session last because they got upset with the letter I wrote, from what they've said to me in the past year that was really upsetting for me.
My keyworker read it and then gave it to my psychotheaprist. So that session they brought the letter and told me "we've already spoken about this" and didn't spoke about the letter accept they did mention they didn't mean to make me feel ashamed or guitly and that was it. It was a big letter too and I put my heart and soul writting that letter. It took two days to write it with deep thought.
After session I ended up crying all the way home driving and I self harm myself more than once.

So to have this happen to me. Is really extremely upsetting

[growlycat]

Usually there is advanced warning and a few sessions to wind down. Also, t should give you referrals. I’m so sorry this doesn’t sound right to me either

[annielovesbacon]

I agree with growlycat, it is not right for a T to announce at the last minute that you only have one session yet. And a T should give you referrals if the T has to terminate with you. I'm sorry your T has treated you like this.

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by growlycat

Usually there is advanced warning and a few sessions to wind down. Also, t should give you referrals. I’m so sorry this doesn’t sound right to me either

He gave me referrals a piece of papper of therapist in community.
Yeah I feel he did it out of anger because of the letter I wrote.
All I wanted to go through the letter and sort.it out.

[SalingerEsme]

Originally Posted by BlueJeans00

Whats a normal progress of having termination in psychotherapy after having a year of therapy?

Im just asking cause my psychothearpist just told me
Last week that our last session is this week. I wasn't even told in advance that it be our last session next week.
I was told since beginning of therapy and this year that
I could go with them, because they told me they going to pirvate practice.
They even told me there superadvisor agree I should go with them and that they give me discount.

Suddnely last week was completely a flip and slap on the face. I did wondered if they made the next week session last because they got upset with the letter I wrote, from what they've said to me in the past year that was really upsetting for me.

I am so sorry. This violates your trust in them, and their responsibilities to be honest and dependable for you. I would write a complaint to the board, honestly. They have a fiduciary responsibility to you they failed to meet. That won't help you feel more normalized right now, but anyone would be reeling. I know I would be. Sounds like their focus on the business of private practice took them away from the practice of medicine and that is NOT okay and not a good way for them to begin either.

[toomanycats]

Usually you are given enough notice for 2-3 final sessions. You discuss your feelings about termination, and you talk about what you have done in therapy. You should always be given a list of other therapists you might go see (referral).

This doesn't sound like it's being handled well. I'm really sorry...

[guilloche]

What day is your final session? It really shouldn't have been dropped on you like this, but at this point, it sounds like it's going to happen - right? There's no chance of you going with your T to his new office?

It might be helpful to think about what you want to get out of your last session. What do you want to tell your T? What do you want to ask? If I were in your position, I'd be thinking of "what do I need for closure?" and "what am I going to have a hard time letting go of, what am I going to keep thinking about, if I don't say it?"

Take the opportunity to make sure you express your feelings to your T. Even if he gets upset or defensive (and if he does, please feel free to call him out on it. I'd say something like, "I'm sorry that this is difficult to hear, but this is my experience - and I need to express it before you leave." or something like that, however feels right for you.)

For example, you put a lot of work in to that letter, but it sounds like your T didn't really respond to it at all, he kind of brushed it off, and that was hurtful and dismissive. That's something you can express in your last session.

The fact that this whole thing was handled so terribly, and that you are feeling lied to and abandoned (that's what it sounds like, apologies if I have it wrong - I don't mean to put words in your mouth) - THAT's worth expressing.

You might not get responses that you like. But, I really hope he's able to hear you and respond in some way that's helpful and not dismissive, and maybe helps you move forward.

Good luck... *hugs*

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I am so sorry. This violates your trust in them, and their responsibilities to be honest and dependable for you. I would write a complaint to the board, honestly. They have a fiduciary responsibility to you they failed to meet. That won't help you feel more normalized right now, but anyone would be reeling. I know I would be. Sounds like their focus on the business of private practice took them away from the practice of medicine and that is NOT okay and not a good way for them to begin either.

I did sent a complaint in to the board.
I thought to myself that I won't let this sly easily.

Could you explain more when you said "Sounds like their focus on the business of oirvate practice took them away from the practice of medicine and that is NOT okay a d not a good way for them to begin either"

Why isn't it ok?

[SalingerEsme]

I just mean that starting a new business is about having a mission statement, ethics, and feeling good about it. There are a bazillion podcasts for therapists about how to go about moving into private practice and how risky it is and how much integrity you should have. It just seems like throwing you under the bus and creating sudden collateral damage on their way out the door is all wrong.

[BlueJeans00]

Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I just mean that starting a new business is about having a mission statement, ethics, and feeling good about it. There are a bazillion podcasts for therapists about how to go about moving into private practice and how risky it is and how much integrity you should have. It just seems like throwing you under the bus and creating sudden collateral damage on their way out the door is all wrong.

Thats a really good oberservation. Plus they are only student so they just graduate this year
I would of thought you'd need more experience before.going pirvate.