[Daeva]

When your therapist and you absolutely can not stand one another, but there's no one with a free spot, so you either stay with them and hope to work it out after 7 months of this, or you stop going to see anyone even though you are not doing well at all.

I hope they find an opening soon with another therapist. At least I like my psychiatrist.

[atisketatasket]

I would find it better not to see anyone, however badly I was doing, if my one option was an additional source of stress to me.

And after 7 months odds of it being worked out are slim to none.

[MessyD]

I agree, I think it's better not to see anyone that someone who doesn't help and might even do more harm. But since you keep going, do you find it helpful in anyway? I cannot I imagine how it would work if you can't stand each other. I hope you can find a better fit soon.

[Keyplayer]

Hi Daeva ,

I am sorry you are in pain , I can only speak of what happened to me along time ago.

Back in `83 I hurt my back , but my old orthopedic doc thought I was just faking it , so he sent me to see this person ( best word I can use publicly ) to help me understand ( I am being nice / open thread ) , any way she to said I was faking it , she kept asking me for money , ( my insurance was paying at the time ) , and be belittled me and had me thinking maybe I was faking and it was all my fault.

I went back to work , and reinjured my back , I saw my regular doc who apologized for send me to that quack , so I stared seeing a chiropractor and stared feeling better.

This person I was seeing said "why are you not working , your back is fine blah /blah ...

I never saw that person again. The doctor who said I was faking died during the aids crisis of the early 80`s , as of that person , I have no idea nor do I care , anymore than she cared.

This may sound mean , but I cut it off after I started feeling better , then I saw another orthopedic surgeon , who asked what I had been doing for help , I told him see a chiropractor , he said well , just keep doing what you are doing and I am here if you need me. He is my orthopedic doc today , I first met him in a professional light in Jan. of 1985.

That person was supposed to be a licensed therapist , she was not , she may have had a license , but not one that proved her worth.

Drop the T , like a bad habit !!

Take care

Keyplayer 

[AllHeart]

Do something different. Why continue to torture yourself? Maybe you'll find yourself doing better without having to deal with this therapist. What about investing in yoga or on-line therapy in the interim of waiting to get lined up with another therapist?

[growlycat]

If I were working with a public agency, I’d dump this witch of a t and start getting demanding about getting a new t ASAP. I hate advocating for myself but sometimes we have to do it and loudly.

[PinkyDoo]

I’m with the others. I’d see no one before I stick with someone I don’t like. Dh and I saw an mc for 3 visits before I said I’m not going back. I left more depressed and upset then when I got there and not for doing the hard work of couples counseling. Dh was also more angry and hostile towards me there. It’s not worth it. 7 months in, that’s long enough if it’s not helping at all.

[InnerPeace111]

If you want to stay with this T until there is another opening, then maybe it would be a possibility to spend the sessions doing something together such as drawing or coloring or painting or playing a game?