[MRT6211]

I’m curious to see how many people opt for same gender versus opposite. I personally am a female and I’ve primarily seen and prefer female therapists.

I'm female, and so is my t. I prefer female t's.

I am female and prefer male ts i just cant stand females ts i have tried a few and just ended up being frustrated as they seem to be quite stupid and ask the same question 20 different ways. Honestly i do not know how anything makes me feels turning a tortilla into a burrito and then fajita doesn t make the answer any different

I have a male T and that suits me.

[junkDNA]

I am female. My t is male

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

I am female. My t is male

But he's my mommy

[DP_2017]

i am female, with male T. i can't open up to women so i went with it, now i regret it however and wish i went with female because i don't ever become close to women, i am able to keep them distant. ugh

[toomanycats]

My primary T is male, but my Group T is female, and I see her as a backup as well if primary T is gone. I like having both.

[Carmina]

Both my therapists are female (I'm M/Q)

don't particularly relate well to most men and I like women so suits me fine

[LonesomeTonight]

I'm a female with a male T. I had a female T for 6 years and had some negative maternal transference for her that made it harder for me to open up and feel comfortable with her. So I went with a male T this time and so far have generally found it easier to open up to him.

[alpacalicious]

I'm female and my current T is female. I think I prefer male Ts because I tend to develop a very strong attachment with male figures, while I noticed with my female ts I never felt that connection. But with male T my attachment was really painful, I was very clingy and wanted something more while with my female T is less intense and less painful. so I think for my own sake female Ts are better than males!

[stopdog]

Same gender but not same orientation. I rarely choose to deal with men if there is a choice and I don't want to run into the therapist in my own community. I have enough social workers, therapists, etc in my own circle that I don't want to increase the chances of having the one I hire enter into my personal life.

[88Butterfly88]

Same gender, I'm not very comfortable with men due to a traumatic experience.

[Elio]

I voted at.... I identify as gender non-conforming and see a female T

I am looking for a personal trainer that is male in hopes to connect a little with that male side. I've been tempted a time or 2 over the last 2 yrs to get a 2nd T that was male so that I'd have one of both genders as I have parts of me that is looking for that male role model. Not really the point of a therapist though.

Sigh.

My current T is female. I have had a male T in the past and I would prefer to see a male. Due to my upbringing (problem with my mother) I have a problem opening up to other females. I doctor through the VA, so it's not always easy to select who I want to see. They would probably accommodate me if I asked.

[Carmina]

Originally Posted by ForWhatItsWorth2U

My current T is female. I have had a male T in the past and I would prefer to see a male. Due to my upbringing (problem with my mother) I have a problem opening up to other females. I doctor through the VA, so it's not always easy to select who I want to see. They would probably accommodate me if I asked.

It's interesting because my trauma is also from my mother but I still prefer women and a female T, I was bullied at school by boys though and never really fitted in with the whole 'masculinity' thing and detest misogyny of any kind - I suspect I also am seeking a motherly relationship I never really had.

[velcro003]

minus my dentist, all of my professional people are female (and i am female). do not want to talk about anything personal with a male...doctor/gyno/T....nope.

[growlycat]

A pollsters lot is not an easy one I know but I was looking for the option that I am female with a not exactly gender conforming male t.

I am female.
Female T. Male pdoc. I like it like this - bit I might also like it if it were different.

Well, actually, I might not. Males in general tend to be more straightforward than females, also less likely to lose themselves in empathy. (Empathy is fine, but empathy ONLY isn't) Also, in my experience with doctors, males tend to be useless, harsh, or a combination. Females.. assume, don't take you seriously, have that empathy I talked about (wanting to talk a lot about what they assume you are going through because of your sore toe. You know, the sore toe doesn't make me sad or anything, and I only think about it when I walk. If I were dying I might want to talk about what I am going through. Or if the sore toe is actually making me sad. Even then, esp in that last case, I would talk about that with my T, not you. Because, you know, being sad or frustrated because of a sore toe isn't really something that I feel an orthopaedic surgeon can help me with.). Also, I have been abused (medically tortured) by/on orders of a female doctor. That doesn't mean I trust them less than male doctors, just that dislike or annoyance rises quickly to fear and distrust in my mind.
Also because males tend to be more 'what you see is what you get' and 'if I don't believe you I'll tell you so', I am more likely to trust what they DO show.

So male pdoc, probably. And I like having a female thrown in somewhere - both for the 'balance' and also because if I have issues with my family (usually mother) her 'I think all mothers do a little of that occasionally. I do. Usually when x is happening and I'm feeling y because of z.'
It is not because I want to work on a relationship with her to heal from what happened with my mother (I never really get that type of therapy either - pay someone who is bound by privacy laws to use therapeutic techniques on you one hour a week is supposed to help you trust women outside of therapy rooms, privacy laws, and therapeutic techniques?), just that she can now occasionally offer the mother's perspective.

[elisewin]

Female and female T. I don't trust men in general and would not want (at least straight) male T.

[starfishing]

My therapist and I are both men (and evidently I'm one of very few men answering this poll), but it's not really a factor for me in choosing someone. I've had both male and female therapists in the past who were terrible and who were great, and I don't think the things I value in a clinician (empathy, intellect, insight, etc) are at all dependent on gender. I can definitely understand others having a gender preference, though.

I think the fact that my therapist and I are both queer men has more of an impact than just the fact that he's a man. There's a downside since it makes it more likely that our social circles will overlap, but it also means we have many more cultural reference points in common.

[inmydreams]

I'm a female and see a female T .I could never work with a male T .I wouldn't even try .

I had 6 female therapists in the past.
I’m seeing a male therapist for the past 7 months now.
So far so good!