[MatBell]

I thought she had given me her work phone number. But either it's her private or she takes or work phone with her on holiday. I think it's the latter.

I didn't expect her to write back when I wrote, but she did. Now I just feel bad to write to her while she is on her holiday. I just sometimes really feel like I need to. Even though I don't expect her to write back it's nice to just get the thoughts "out there".

Have any of you experienced something like this?

[Anastasia~]

I understand how you feel, my T has told me I can text him, but I usually feel bad when I do. I would suggest that you talk at length with your T so you know when you can text, what you can text, and so forth. That way you know what to expect. And yes, I do like to get my thoughts "out there," I can't explain it but I know exactly what you mean.

[SalingerEsme]

Texter/emailer's remorse is the worst feeling. I wish there was a recall button on them.

[Elio]

Originally Posted by MatBell

I thought she had given me her work phone number. But either it's her private or she takes or work phone with her on holiday. I think it's the latter.

I didn't expect her to write back when I wrote, but she did. Now I just feel bad to write to her while she is on her holiday. I just sometimes really feel like I need to. Even though I don't expect her to write back it's nice to just get the thoughts "out there".

Have any of you experienced something like this?

Yes, I have experienced this. Then I try to remember that it is my T's job to take care of herself, including knowing when she needs to not be doing work stuff, especially if I am not in crisis.

In July, my T moved from being part of a clinic to being in private practice. At that time, she got a cell phone for her practice (she does have a separate one for personal usage). I figured during after hours she would have it turned off. One night things were really bad and I called her 3 times throughout the late evening and early morning. The first 2 rang the usually 4 times then went to voicemail. I was ok with that, I was expecting that and hearing her voice and leaving her the voicemail is all I wanted. The 3rd one went directly to voicemail. This one was at 2 or 3 in the morning. I felt really bad about it. Another time, not long after that night, things were still not going well for me and I had emailed her several times over a weekend, each one showing more issues. Then Sunday afternoon, I went to make a phone call and thought I would call her and listen to her voicemail - hear her voice and she picked up. I was embarrassed about that one.

If you have not already talked to her, I recommend talking to her about it, to find out what her policy is. My T's policy is that it is ok for me to email or call whenever I want, she will respond as soon as she can/is available - meaning when she can provide the appropriate focus and time to respond.