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#1
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Please forgive me!!
Changed my mind.
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"What is denied, cannot be healed." - Brennan Manning "Hope knows that if great trials are avoided, great deeds remain undone and the possibility of growth into greatness of soul is aborted." - Brennan Manning Last edited by TrailRunner14; Dec 28, 2017 at 01:28 AM. Reason: TMI |
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No communication....no sticking around. I've never been much of a door mat. I have spikes.
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#3
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TR, your voice is important.
I hope you have a cozy blanket and a good book, and maybe a hot cup of tea. ![]()
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Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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TR - I don't know what happened.
I don't handle being "dismissed". I typically freak out and meltdown after leaving. It is not pretty. The thing with me is that is the feeling of being "dismissed" not that I was actually "dismissed" that causes this problem. Most often (as an adult), I am not being dismissed, I just take the comment as being dismissed. I can take the word "ok" or "fine" as a dismissal depending on the situation, what is being said, where my emotional investment is, the tone used with those words. T did it once and it led to our biggest rupture. We worked through it, it was hard work and I did have to talk about it. I know that sometimes I take these comments as dismissals when they are not dismissals. I don't know what happened for you, I'm sorry you felt dismissed. |
![]() Anastasia~, Anonymous52976, TrailRunner14
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Being dismissed can be very triggering for me because sometimes i get flashbacks related to not being taken seriously, not believed, or the person is in denial and didnt 'see' the danger when i was in unsafe situations.
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![]() Anastasia~, Elio, TrailRunner14
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![]() Anastasia~, Elio, TrailRunner14, unaluna
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I feel dismissed from therapy whenever my T pushes hard for me to confide a really tough secret, I struggle and do it bc of our relationship, and then he is like oh we're out of time and the slushy kid in a hoody is ready to come in. It is like emotional whiplash. I am okay and feel less dismissed if the topic isnt outside my comfort zone. I like my T bc he gets a lot done, moves fast, pushes hard, while still being very empathetic and imaginative. Sometimes he just takes it too far - one time he said "you know, I can be. . . " implying a bit relentless. For the most part it inspires me, but here and there he misjudges imo and dismisses me in a state that is not okay t try and take back to work or out into the bright happy streets.
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Living things don’t all require/ light in the same degree. Louise Gluck |
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Well, it is fair to say that not everyone is compatible with everyone else. Still, when a T/P realises they are not the right fit for a patient I think they have a responsibility to refer them to someone more suitable. To just cut someone off seems unprofessional to me.
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