[Sparklingdance84]

Today in therapy I told my therapist something I thought that was going on with a friendship of mine , and then she sort of didn't believe me and said that I was most likely wrong and asked me what made me believe that and I do admit that I tend to overthink everything ... After that I didn't really want to talk about the issue anymore , and she said it didn't matter , that I had to , that I was throwing a tantrum by bringing it in and then not wanting to talk about it (I felt she was almost mad , she was very different from what she usually is)... I was like whaatt...?! to be honest I felt uncomfortable, I felt she was telling me off and then she started lecturing me as if I was a kid of hers. Is this okay ? Is she a good therapist? Is she pushing me too hard? Should I find a new therapist ? Is this for my own wellbeing and progress? What should I do ? Or am I again overthinking?

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry you had this experience. Personally, I don't think it is possible to answer your questions based on this one incident. For one thing I wasn't there (obviously). And for another, I don't think one can judge the ability or effectiveness of a counselor or therapist based on a single occurrence. From what you wrote, it does sound as though she was being assertive. That's not necessarily bad. What has irritated me in the past, with therapists I've seen, is that they just sit there while I rattle on. It begins to feel like "rent-a-friend".

My suggestion would be to go back in for your next appointment & discuss how you felt about how things went at this last appointment. One thing I would not recommend is to bail out on this T based on this one experience alone. You'll never make any progress if you bail every time you have an uncomfortable experience with a therapist. The only other alternative is to find one who just sits there while you rattle on... sort-of like "rent-a-friend". I wish you well...

P.S. Here's a link to an article from PsychCentral's archives on the subject of what to do when you're mad at your therapist:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-to...our-therapist/

[stopdog]

I would not put up with a therapist treating me like that. I do not hire therapists to be bullied by them.

[Sparklingdance84]

[QUOTE=Skeezyks;5977928]I'm sorry you had this experience. Personally, I don't think it is possible to answer your questions based on this one incident. For one thing I wasn't there (obviously). And for another, I don't think one can judge the ability or effectiveness of a counselor or therapist based on a single occurrence. From what you wrote, it does sound as though she was being assertive. That's not necessarily bad. What has irritated me in the past, with therapists I've seen, is that they just sit there while I rattle on. It begins to feel like "rent-a-friend".

My suggestion would be to go back in for your next appointment & discuss how you felt about how things went at this last appointment. One thing I would not recommend is to bail out on this T based on this one experience alone. You'll never make any progress if you bail every time you have an uncomfortable experience with a therapist. The only other alternative is to find one who just sits there while you rattle on... sort-of like "rent-a-friend". I wish you well...

P.S. Here's a link to an article from PsychCentral's archives on the subject of what to do when you're mad at your therapist:

You are right , it's better than to feel I'm just renting a friend, I'm sorry you have felt that
Thank you so much!! I'll definitely read the article! Take care!