If you could ask your T just one thing....

My question would be: if you had to summarise or hand over my case to a colleague, e.g. present it in a meeting - so give a summary, history and why I'm in therapy, what would you say?

I wish I could know the real answer to this. I've tried asking this kind of question to my T, but he will turn it into a discussion about what I really want to know and why.

What I really know is what he thinks about me and I feel like if he were to speak honestly to a colleague that would be an "unfiltered" version, unlike anything he says to me.

Do you hate me? Why did you hurt me?

From today's session with T: "Do you put yourself in the 'socially awkward psychologists who are bookworms' category?"

What are you true feelings about me?

I know A Lot about T. There is one thing I have always wondered but it is totally not my business. I know all about her son and her being a single parent. Never once has she even remotely mentioned a father. I would love to know about what happened.

With EMDR T I know almost nothing. So I have many questions. If i could ask just one I think it would be about her child and parenting style

PrevT gave me generic answers like that when I talked about things like if she likes me or if she has enough of me. I really hate such answers. They don't help a thing and only made me doubt more.
Current T doesn't give such useless answers.

That's also what I want to know from PrevT: did you ever had enough of me and didn't want to be my T anymore?

I know how my T feels about me and if she cares about me. I believe what she has told me repeatedly and what I have felt from her over time. I guess I am curious about her non-therapist self and what some of her relationships are like, but I don't know that I would actually want to know her in that way anyway. I have honestly already asked her a lot of questions.

Why did you get divorced? None of my business, and I will never ask. But I am curious.

Ooh this is hard.

How annoying am I to work with on a scale of 1-10?

How did I get so lucky this late in life?

Do you really believe I am worthy and deserving of the praise you give me?

I'd ask her about what traumas she has had in life I think, because that would help me understand how much she may or may not understand what happens with me. At the same time I am okay with not knowing. It don't have a burning desire to know that or anything else.