I hardly ever cry in T but if i do its just a small trickle down my cheek which i may use one tissue for then that tissie goes into my pocket as if i am saying you cant have my tears. I notice in the basket there are lots and lots of tissues, so do people use so many tissues that they cant fit them in their pockets or do you want to leave those tears behind? What do you do with your tissues and why?

ETA i think even if i snotty cried i would still take the tissues with me

[kecanoe]

I've done both, but never thought about the reason. That is interesting; I'll have to ponder it.

[DP_2017]

I've never used them. I would use my sleeve if I started to tear up and quickly remove any tears, the one time I legit cried, I used my T's shirt LOL

[ruh roh]

I've done both--taken them with me and put them in the trash. Sometimes, I have gone through so many that I used the trash. If I don't need to use any until the end of the session, then I usually take it with me. It also depends on the type of crying. Sometimes, there's just an unrelenting gush that my shirt gets sloppy if I don't catch it all. If it's just some tears, I use my hand or arm to wipe it off.

Never thought about it that I recall. I toss them in the little wastebasket next to the couch. Sometimes I toss them rather hard into the wastebasket. That can be satisfying in its own way.

[WarmFuzzySocks]

I usually hold the tissue in case I need it again, end up twisting and fiddling with it until it turns into tiny useless tissue shreds. Then I toss it in the basket.

[Elio]

Just depends, I've done both. Lots of times the go with me ones are because I think there might be more tears on the way home. In her new office, I'm not sure where the garbage can is. The tissue isn't within reach of me and I get angry I have to ask for it now so I often try not to ask for it.

[zoiecat]

After more than a year I have never shed a full tear to need one. If I ever did I would put it in my pocket.

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

I usually hold the tissue in case I need it again, end up twisting and fiddling with it until it turns into tiny useless tissue shreds. Then I toss it in the basket.

This. Unless the wastebasket is missing, then I stick the tissue shrapnel in my purse or pocket.

I really dislike crying in the therapist's office, but sometimes it happens anyway. I despise when he offers / points out the tissue box.

[Fernwehxx]

I've never used a tissue...

Once, with a pdoc I hated, I even refused her tissues and rather wiped everything on my sleeve. Gosh, was she awful.

Now, I usually use the back of my hands if it happens, maybe even a scarf. Its usually just tears, and in a way, I find tissues too dramatic amd will not grab them. If myrecent T offered, I'd dare to take one, tho. Id probably make it disappear in my pocket, bit I might drop it in the trash, as well, guess that part wouldn't matter too much.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I take them with me. But I don't even know if she has a trash can...lol.

[healinginprogress]

It really depends. Sometimes I'm honestly too distraught to even reach for tissues. If I do use tissues I usually stick them in my pockets only because her waste basket isn't close to where I sit. You know... I should point that out so that she can put one close to my seat. She has plenty of both scattered around, but I think she needs one more.

[LonesomeTonight]

I generally end up piling them in my lap during session. Then I either just put them in my purse or sometimes will throw them in T's trash can, which is by the door, but has a lid you have to lift off, so a bit of a pain. In my marriage counselor's office, his trash can is under his desk, so not easy to access, so I always put those in my purse to dispose of later. Once, when I got pretty emotional, he put the trash can in front of me, saying he didn't want me to have to hold them in my lap. Which felt very caring for some reason. He only did that the one time though...

[stopdog]

I always carried in a handkerchief on the very off chance of me crying. And I think the woman had a box of kleenex on her table but I don't recall seeing a trash can anywhere.

My t has a glass table between the 2 recliners and his basket is under that so you can see how full it is but you have to lean forward and turn slightly to pull it out from under the table. I feel i must take every bit of me out of the room as if i had not been there.

My thanks button is playing up but assrued i have thanked eceryone

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I hardly ever cry in T but if i do its just a small trickle down my cheek which i may use one tissue for then that tissie goes into my pocket as if i am saying you cant have my tears. I notice in the basket there are lots and lots of tissues, so do people use so many tissues that they cant fit them in their pockets or do you want to leave those tears behind? What do you do with your tissues and why?

ETA i think even if i snotty cried i would still take the tissues with me

I love this! I never, ever would have thought of used tissues being a way to leave tears behind. I have always twisted and played with my kleenex too. Then I shove it in my purse cuz I don't even know where the trash can is.

[unaluna]

I used to feel funny about leaving my takeout coffee cup behind if there was dying cappuccino foam in it, even with a lid on, cuz it could still leak, and he has an open weave basket for the trash. But at least it is near the clients chair. And he was always, go ahead its fine! I usually take one kleenex because my nose is always runny when i come in from outside, then i tuck it in my pocket or my waistband. Not a big cryer.

[crystaljeane]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I hardly ever cry in T but if i do its just a small trickle down my cheek which i may use one tissue for then that tissie goes into my pocket as if i am saying you cant have my tears. I notice in the basket there are lots and lots of tissues, so do people use so many tissues that they cant fit them in their pockets or do you want to leave those tears behind? What do you do with your tissues and why?

ETA i think even if i snotty cried i would still take the tissues with me

For my nose cause it runs when I think of you

[crystaljeane]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

I've never used them. I would use my sleeve if I started to tear up and quickly remove any tears, the one time I legit cried, I used my T's shirt LOL

Thank you God

[LonesomeTonight]

OK, if I ever became a T, I think I'd have boxes of tissues and trash cans stashed all around the room.

[TrailRunner14]

Tears are a goal for me to share with my counselor.

I’ve not thought of it before, but no if I do have the gift of tears, with a tissue, I’ll take them with me.

Thank you for posting this. I haven’t thought of the gift it would be.

[mostlylurking]

There are a couple of somewhat amusing / interesting posts by T's about kleenex, if anyone is interested:

The Tissue Issue

Kleenex in Psychotherapy

Sometimes in my T's office there is a kleenex lying on the table, apparently virtually untouched, but not in the box anymore. I never know if I should use it or not because maybe someone else was handling it and that wouldn't be sanitary, but it looks totally pristine and I don't want to be wasteful. Do some clients pull out a kleenex and place it close by just in case? That would be fine but I kind of wish my T would just dispose of it after a client so that the next one is not sitting there befuddled.

[smallbluefish]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I hardly ever cry in T but if i do its just a small trickle down my cheek which i may use one tissue for then that tissie goes into my pocket as if i am saying you cant have my tears. I notice in the basket there are lots and lots of tissues, so do people use so many tissues that they cant fit them in their pockets or do you want to leave those tears behind? What do you do with your tissues and why?

ETA i think even if i snotty cried i would still take the tissues with me

I've only cried in front of my T once, but I just held the bundle in my hands and I think I'd do the same other times, as well. that said, there's a garbage bin near the chair but it's always empty and, for whatever reason, I'd feel awkward having my T take out the trash with my tissues, even though they don't seem like they'd feel weird about it.

the idea of leaving your tears behind is so interesting, though! I hadn't thought about it that way before, but I really like it.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

I cry almost every session to some degree. My T has neither tissues nor a trash can, so I bring my own tissues, and put them back in my pocket when I've used them.