[MRT6211]

So I’m the one who posted yesterday about T doing the urine drug test on me and it making me feel vastly uncomfortable.

Well, when I had my session with her today, she was not sympathetic about my feelings about this, and acted like I was being dramatic and openly mocked me about it. I feel incredibly invalidated and I don’t even know what to do moving forward. I’ve already had 4 panic attacks over this one thing alone. She doesn’t understand that this is actually what is causing my anxieties, she said it was about other things.

[zoiecat]

Wow I'm so sorry that your therapist you reacted that way. Whether they agreed or not they should have at least validated your feelings over it and tried to make you feel less vulnerable. Is it possible to change therapist this one doesn't seem very helpful.

I think it's about finding our voice. We can't control another's actions/behaviour. But we can learn to speak up and stand by that when we feel we are not comfortable . we still may not get the response we want. But we can take ourselves out of the situation.

[here today]

Yes, when I read about her mocking you I kind of wanted to reply but didn't know what to say.

Congrats on realizing, yourself, that you felt invalidated. And reaching out here again.

I've had experience with a T, too, that when the therapy had hurt me, and she had an inkling of that, she defensively shamed me, probably because she felt "responsible" and there was nothing she could do about what had passed and her participation in it. That may have helped her to feel better in the moment but ultimately her defensiveness made things worse for the "relationship", and my trust of her.

I'm so sorry this is happening for you. Is there anyone else in the treatment program that you can talk to? This is clearly affecting your treatment and I hope there is somebody there in the program who might be able to hear you. If not, maybe some of the other participants? Maybe some of them would have some ideas?

[maybeblue]

Jeeze. I can't believe that. I don't blame you at all for being annoyed and hurt that she didn't take this seriously. Frankly I think that she is in the wrong about this. When you posted before you had lots of people say that yes, this would have made them horribly uncomfortable too. So this isn't an oversensitivity on your part. And I think you were pretty brave to tell her about your feelings. I wish she had been more understanding. Even if she couldn't change the situation, she should have been willing to try to understand your feelings.