[1stepatatime]

My therapist just moved to a new office.i have been seeing her at the same place for 5 years, last week was the first time in the new office. I should add it’s not just the office but the entire setting is new. It is a nice place, she’s made it her own and it’s very appealing. So what’s the problem? It’s so strange!! I completely understand that these feelings are to be expected. It’s brand new to me ( and to my therapist) and will take some time to get adjusted to the new environment. My concern is that as much as I am logically aware these feelings are normal my emotions are all over the place. I miss the old place, I miss the smell of the old place, I really miss looking out the window to escape if I need to... the sofa backs up to the window so there is no where else for me to look.. except at her. I worry that because this is a new environment our connection might be lost. I feel a little resentment because a picture that I had given her about four years ago was not there. Again, I know that she’s still settling in and I should cut her some slack but I guess I’ve been triggered. Any words of wisdom are always appreciated... thanks!

[mcl6136]

This happened to me and although the Ts new place was nicer, it was a bit sterile. But after a few appointments, I started to settle in and it turned out to have an energy I liked better. I think you'll find things to like soon!

[growlycat]

My t is in a relatively new office. I was lucky that he happened to ask my opinion about the office set up before he moved furniture. He asked me if anything about the setup would make a patient uncomfortable. Mostly I told him don’t get between me and the door and he said it was also important that a patient can’t block the door either. He made a compromise shift in furniture. It was helpful for me to have a say.
I still feel like in the new place he sits too far away but I haven’t brought it up yet

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T switched offices about a year ago. I miss the location and parking, but I actually prefer her new office. That being said, it was hard adjusting at first. She was having her own problems adjusting too. She shares her office with another T. Technically, it's the other T's office, so she decorates it. Well the other T bought a big comfy sofa chair. My T is short, so her feet couldn't reach the ground. She didn't know whether she wanted to sit there or in the office chair. Least she had a choice. I'm stuck with the leather couch. Anyways, it took awhile for both of us to adjust. You will adjust too. It just takes time. You might always prefer the old office, or maybe things about the old office, and that's okay. But it's the T that can make things comfortable again. Once you get back to that safe feeling, it will be okay.

My T switched offices in November and I am just now settling in to where I am comfortable. Change is hard, especially when it's a place that you felt safe. Just keep reminding yourself that the location changed bit your T is still the same.

[Chummy2]

My PrevT changed practises about 3 years ago. I hate this place she works at now. (I still see her for closing sessions and have a current T who also works at that place.)
The drive to there is much worse and I can't go with public transport. The rooms are louder. I could hear the people in the room next to her. It's not that change is hard, this place just sucks. I'm still not sure of I should keep going there, but attachment... The other thing with my T is, she changed also a bit. Late for sessions and then she started to have back to back sessions while she always had about 15 minutes between sessions. And some other things. So, nothing but hate for that place.

Sorry, no words of wisdom.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by mcl6136

This happened to me and although the Ts new place was nicer, it was a bit sterile. But after a few appointments, I started to settle in and it turned out to have an energy I liked better. I think you'll find things to like soon!

Thank you! It is my hope that I’ll start to feel more at home after a few sessions. So far it’s been only two sessions and I still feel really weird.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by growlycat

My t is in a relatively new office. I was lucky that he happened to ask my opinion about the office set up before he moved furniture. He asked me if anything about the setup would make a patient uncomfortable. Mostly I told him don’t get between me and the door and he said it was also important that a patient can’t block the door either. He made a compromise shift in furniture. It was helpful for me to have a say.
I still feel like in the new place he sits too far away but I haven’t brought it up yet

Hi there...I wish my therapist would have asked me for input.. I would have told her that she is sitting too close! Strangely enough, she started sitting closer to me before she moved and I liked it.. it felt warm. Now I don’t know to take it! Change is difficult!!

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

My T switched offices about a year ago. I miss the location and parking, but I actually prefer her new office. That being said, it was hard adjusting at first. She was having her own problems adjusting too. She shares her office with another T. Technically, it's the other T's office, so she decorates it. Well the other T bought a big comfy sofa chair. My T is short, so her feet couldn't reach the ground. She didn't know whether she wanted to sit there or in the office chair. Least she had a choice. I'm stuck with the leather couch. Anyways, it took awhile for both of us to adjust. You will adjust too. It just takes time. You might always prefer the old office, or maybe things about the old office, and that's okay. But it's the T that can make things comfortable again. Once you get back to that safe feeling, it will be okay.

Thank you! I’m hoping that I will feel safe and comfortable again. One thing that is really bugging me is a picture that I had framed for her about four years ago is not in her new office. It’s a smaller picture that sat on an end table in her old office.. I thought she really liked it, at least she used to. She has not put it out in the new office. I even asked her last week and she stated “ I don’t have any tables large enough”..it was a smaller picture , seascape that I took while on vacation some years ago. Maybe she feels like it doesn’t fit with the vibe of her new space.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by besidemyselvez

My T switched offices in November and I am just now settling in to where I am comfortable. Change is hard, especially when it's a place that you felt safe. Just keep reminding yourself that the location changed bit your T is still the same.

Thank you... I only hope that it’s just the office that has changed. Time will tell.

[growlycat]

I just happened to be in his new space before furniture because we were working on my driving phobia and driving to his new address was a task for me to get over