I try my best to help myself but it’s really hard considering I have to wait for some things to happen (such as appointments).
My mother just asks me what can be done. That question is absolutely retarded and frustrating, I tried using analogies to explain to her that I can’t tell her how to help me since I DONT KNOW!
So how do I help my parents help me?

[toomanycats]

That's not really your job. I'd tell your mother the best thing she could do would be to talk to your therapist (and/or her own therapist) to help her learn how to support and help you.

[stopdog]

Are you a minor or an adult?

Of course it’s bot my job, that’s why that retarded question extremely frustrates me! Other than that she just lets me rot without checking on me.

[toomanycats]

Ok, well, in teenager speak, I would say "I don't know, mom; it's your job to figure that out. Maybe get your own therapist? I don't know, but do something."

I believe you are an adult now, correct? I would tell them that the best they can do is check on you occasionally, ask how you're doing, and just listen rather than judge. There is not much else they can do. The bulk of your recovery will fall on your own efforts.

[toomanycats]

Oh. I was operating under the assumption that you were not an adult. You can ignore me then.

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

Other than that she just lets me rot without checking on me.

Do you make the effort to check in with your mom? For example, if I make a stock pot full of soup--my children can choose to take a bowl of it in their room when they are hungry or they can ask, "What time are you eating?" so they can join us when we eat and if you join your parents at mealtimes regularly, it is easy to check in on each other/be supportive of each other. Support is a two way street. I am sorry if she does not interact with you--just encouraging you to have initiative just in case you are lacking it (I do not know how motivated you are--maybe you are a self starter and if you are--I apologize for my suggestion). I hope things get better for you.

PS I am mom with 2 adult children--it makes me so happy whenever they interact with me.

[stopdog]

There are a lot of variables here - are you an adult or a minor? Do you live with your parents or on your own? Etc.

One thing you could do is work with your own therapist to be able to come up with something concrete to tell your parents that would help you. OR invite them to a therapy appointment where you discuss concrete ideas.
I don't really think it is just up to the parents to figure it out on their own even if you are a teenager - you have some idea of something - just sitting and telling them that your parents are stupid is not going to help either of you. Plus, without your input, what they come up with and what you want could be different things.

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

I try my best to help myself but it’s really hard considering I have to wait for some things to happen (such as appointments).
My mother just asks me what can be done. That question is absolutely retarded and frustrating, I tried using analogies to explain to her that I can’t tell her how to help me since I DONT KNOW!
So how do I help my parents help me?

Start small?? You know that your mom asking you "what can be done" is frustrating so start by politely asking her to stop (if you haven't done so already).

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

Of course it’s bot my job, that’s why that retarded question extremely frustrates me! Other than that she just lets me rot without checking on me.

So you would like your mother to check in on you sometimes then? Food for thought: What kind of a check in might you want? Phone, in person, text, email? How often? What would you like to hear from your mom during that check in? Do you just want a "how are you?" or do you need to hear something like, "I am here for you if you need me?" Do you want her to pick you up and take you out to lunch once in a while or to a movie?

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

Of course it’s bot my job, that’s why that retarded question extremely frustrates me! Other than that she just lets me rot without checking on me.

I don't think it's a retarded question. I can see it being frustrating, but not retarded. If even you don't know what you need, how would she possibly know? She's asking because she doesn't know and WANTS to.

Maybe you need for her to not ask that question because it frustrates you? Maybe you need for her to check on you and not "let you rot in your room."

Sorry for not replying but there are things that I just can't explain right now
I'm figuring out allot of things so, thanks for replying and helping me out.
I will update when I have something new to say

Have you ever had family therapy? Maybe just a session or two, to talk about what's going on/things that bother you in everyday life, and figure out together how your mum can support you?

[annielovesbacon]

I don't know how old you are, but I can give you my experience. I'm 20 and in college, so I live on my own but am still dependent on my parents in part financially, and I am on their insurance.
When I told my parents I had bipolar disorder (which took me two years to work up the courage to do), they asked how they could help. I tried to explain to them that there truly is nothing they can do. I asked that they just be patient with me. Sometimes my mom gets frustrated with me when I do poorly in school (she's afraid I'll lose my scholarship) or annoyed with me when I'm home but I stay locked up in my room and sleep a lot rather than interacting with the family. I told her I know those are valid concerns, but those are also symptoms of my mental illness and it would help if she could be patient and understanding.