[MRT6211]

Does your T have certain things they say all of the time to you that you don’t often hear other people say?

I know my T does. A few of my favorite examples are:
“I’ll call a spade a spade here”
“For a hot minute/second”
“My blood pressure is rising just hearing that”
She also just gives me “the look” sometimes and says “seriously??”

[CelestialFlame]

Mine says "well think about it" almost every 5 minutes

My pdoc says "but I'm not a therapist" a lot.

Also, we've had this conversation literally 9 or 10 times:
Pdoc: "You've been taken that medication [usually benzo's] for three weeks now, it'll lose it's efficiacy if you take it too long.." and maybe something more like that. Basically: you can't take it forever because of x and y.
I: "OK, shall I take half a dose from tomorrow on?"
Pdoc: ".. Isn't that too fast?"
I: "Well, I can always restart if it goes wrong."
(I have my benzo's as a PRN, but sometimes for a few days or a few weeks I'll take them standard - after discussing it with my pdoc)

As for my T.. nothing immediately comes to mind, although she often says similar things but that's because I often have the same issues.
And she calls my pdoc 'your medicine man' or 'don't you call him medicine man?' a lot (they know each other, by the way - same T organization, different location, sometimes we have meetings where the two of them + family T + me + parents are together). It's because when I started seeing pdoc, I was extremely afraid of doctors. So after a while I designated him as a pill therapist. (He wasn't pleased when he found out, thought it was an insult, whereas it was actually a compliment. "Doctors are evil, I don't think you're evil, you're not a doctor. You talk and prescribe, therapist and pills, pill therapist." (Also, if I remembered he was a doctor, I'd get more anxious/scared in session, so if I refused to acknowledge that, I was able to open up more and talk instead of panic) Took some explaining.)

[Out There]

" Can you sit / be with that feeling ? " Often something I find very difficult. But he still says it

[stopdog]

"You didn't really say that did you?" which turned into "I know you only thought that"
and
"You only exist from the neck up" - I have no idea what the woman meant by that.

That is too vague for me to work with.

[fille_folle]

I get told I'm "shut down" a lot, but I guess that's more of a catch phrase for me than my therapist. She does use the word "yet" quite frequently, as in: "I understand your reasoning, yet the logic is flawed." She also pronounces "especially" "eKspecially." She also tends to suggest things using "do you think" format questions. I guess she doesn't really have any specific catch phrases, just certain mannerisms and favored words or sentence structure. Sometimes she asks, "Can you say more about that?" when I'm being irrational.

[AllHeart]

"Can I give you some unsolicited advice?" and
"Here's my unsolicited advice."

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

Not a catch phrase per se, but whenever he tries to use a phrase like for example "bite the bullet", he replaces 'bullet' by some nonsense like 'gun barrel' and then tries to figure out the correct word for the phrase, before he settles on the wrong one. It's kind of funny though, so I let him try to figure it out every time.

[Glittering]

'We're not fully conscious beings, however much we might like to think we are'

[growlycat]

“Keep being awesome”

In response to dark thoughts and anxiety...
“Shut that ***** down”

[RaineD]

Originally Posted by 502041

That is too vague for me to work with.

Omg, do we have the same therapist?

[Elio]

Keep on keeping on

Keep doing the best you can at any moment

[awkwardlyyours]

She’s sometimes given to generic phrases. A recent example (in response to my anxiety about a social situation), “Just be yourself”.

My response — “What the f-k is my self?”.

She had the grace to laugh.

[maybeblue]

My therapist likes to talk about "messy abstinence" which means something like even though you screwed up and ate a chocolate bar you are still headed toward eating healthy. Mostly that term comes up when I used the phrase "screwed up," which he doesn't like much.

He also repeats stories. I've thought about pointing that out, but so far I haven't.

[LonesomeTonight]

T, when I'm leaving (though not always): "Good luck out there!"

MC has a few: When leaving, he generally says, "It was good to see you" while shaking each of our hands.
"But you handled it" regarding a fight with H or other difficult situation. I finally had to tell him "That's not helping!" Because he kept saying the same thing. If we keep fighting about the same topics, then maybe, just maybe it's something we need to address in there...
Talking about knowing something in my head vs. in my gut (like cognitively vs. emotionally)
And he has some favored metaphors, like the zip line, which seems scary, and even if someone explains how safe it is, it's difficult to believe that until you do it.
Or various sports metaphors

[Lemoncake]

That he was here and wasn't going anywhere.

[chihirochild]

My pdoc often says, "good to see you." It's very rarely good for me so in response I laugh or give him an incredulous look.

[zoiecat]

Oh so many...
"Good for you, A+ for the day"

"Could you sit with that feeling for a minute"

"I have a hunch. Do you want to hear my hunch?"

Whenever I say I don't know, he says "I don't either. Can you think about that for a minute? Give me some maybe's."

"How was this session for you today" my answer is always "I don't know."

And the one I absolutely hate the most is "That sounds like a dialectic."

[Argonautomobile]

"Oh dear."

[annielovesbacon]

"Can you put a little detail in that response?"
"What did I say about calling yourself stupid?!"

[Amyjay]

"Okay."
"O-kaaaay..."
"Okay!"
"Okay?"
"Okay. Okay.... Okay!"
"Okay.... okay?... Ohhhhhhhh! Okay."
Etc.

[junkDNA]

Do you like apples junkdna?
How do you like them apples .

[rainbow8]

When I don't want to do the visualization or exercise in the session that she suggests, my T says "humor me."

[SalingerEsme]

Stay the course
What is it like to be here with me now
See you xyz day as the very last words ( Are you worried I won't come? Are you reassuring me that it isn't long between sessions?)
If that's where you are. . . ( disagreeing but pretending tolerance)
Who else is in the room?