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#1
Jan 25, 2018, 03:55 AM
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I am writing an email to T with a confession that I’ve never told my former Ts, not even the one that I was with for 8 years.
It was going great now I froze before typing the words... |
 Anonymous54545, WarmFuzzySocks
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#2
Jan 25, 2018, 04:02 AM
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Oh no, I froze and wasn’t able to get the words out but if I had, that would have been HUGE.
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| Anonymous54545, LonesomeTonight, malika138
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#3
Jan 25, 2018, 06:21 AM
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I commend your courage in trying. If you cant write the actual words, maybe you can take it slowly? Obviously this is an obstacle for you and one you apparently would like to get past.... why not just tell him that you have something that you have never told anyone and at some point may want to bring it to him? Sometimes, for me anyway, just acknowledging that there is something there and you may want to deal with it eventually can be enough to calm that storm inside PLUS it gives me the opportunity to discuss what I'm afraid of.
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 kecanoe, LonesomeTonight
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#4
Jan 25, 2018, 06:44 AM
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The fact that you are starting to want to tell T is a big step. If you can't do it this week, maybe next week you can. It's ok to go slowly.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#5
Jan 25, 2018, 09:20 AM
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Starting is a fantastic first step. You did amazing.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#6
Jan 25, 2018, 12:04 PM
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I agree that it would be a positive step to just tell t that there is something that you have been wanting to tell them but can’t yet. It takes some of the scariness out of it. Maybe you won’t be ready for a year, but at least it is out there. I have some issues that I am not able to talk about yet, too. My t does not badger me about it, but I know she will be ready when I am. I’m thinking of you as you process this.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#7
Jan 25, 2018, 12:21 PM
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How about writing the whole thing but sending it to yourself, and then letting that settle in. It goes nowhere, but you've at least written the whole thing.
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| LonesomeTonight, precaryous
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#8
Jan 25, 2018, 12:36 PM
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I just wrote to my T last night that we have things that need to be talked about when she gets back from vacation. I told her to not let me chicken out. So I kind of know how you feel although I can imagine that your info is more serious and scary than mine.
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| LonesomeTonight
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#9
Jan 25, 2018, 06:21 PM
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It's great that you are taking that first step, trying to get it out. Be patient with yourself, you can get there.
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Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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#10
Jan 28, 2018, 01:25 PM
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I was able to do it! I finally told him a few days ago. That was HUGE!
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| DP_2017, LonesomeTonight
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| WarmFuzzySocks
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