[dalila]

<font color="green">Today I got really sick - IBS. with the cramps and nausea, I was pretty miserable and suddenly found myself whining that "I want Dr. K" my therapist! Not my mother, daddy or dh but my therapist. Is this just being attached to her or is this obsession?
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[jbug]

I'd say attachment. I know when I was seeing Steve if I was having a rough day there wasn't anything anyone could do except me talking to Steve. I know there was a couple of times I had migranes and the only person I would talk to was Steve.

Don't feel bad just know you're attached.

Jbug

[Perna]

It's a wonderful piece of information about yourself :-) What do you think your T would have said or done? Was that IBS incident related to any stress rather than being purely medical?

[lauren_helene]

Attachment and perhaps not about T but someone else significant to you? I was reading about this last night.

We think it is our T's because they are providing the proper environment for us to trust them. Care when we need it, stern when we need it, validation of our feelings. Perhaps the perfert parent scenario.

In any case, our feelings our real to us and yours are valid. I'm glad that you think of your T that way.

I don't know much about IBS but my mom has it and she says it is stress/anxiety related because that is when she has a flare up.

Sounds pretty normal to me. I mean.. seems like wanting comfort is a natural reaction. And the good thing is that you link your T to feeling comfort.

[sunrise]

dalila, this sounds very normal to me. You are very close to your therapist and in times of pain and need, you want her comfort. It's OK! Hope you feel better.

[Mouse_]

Dalila, I think its fine you felt you wanted your T, after all that is the person that is taking care of your inner world at this time. Eventually you will be able to comfort yourself.

This is normal attachment. I often whine, "I waaaaant myyyy T!!!!" Unless you are physically stalking him (which I don't think you are, lol) then it is not obsession. You are involved in a normal part of the therapeutic process.

[dalila]

<font color="green">Thanks y'all, I feel a bit better today. I am lactose intolerant as well as having the depression and anxiety so it can be a double or even triple whammy when the IBS hits.

Just like most of you, I have the extreme abandonment fears and even though I believe intellectually that she is not gonna abandon me.... but the fear is so intense, the past has been so predictable that I find it impossible to believe she is not going to become fed up with me. Ok that triggered the panic but good. sigh.

It feels like being caught between a rock and a hard place. If I admit my fears I might hurt her feelings or our relationship but if I don't, we can never work on the problem. And all the while panic churns in my guts.

Why do I feel so fearful, ashamed and frightened about needing her? Why does it seem that I need her so much?</font>