Do you try and make the therapist think they are special to you?

My last therapist (I saw her for four months) assumed she was special to me but she really wasn't. At some point she even asked me whether I liked coming to therapy and I was like "meh whatever". At the end she yelled at me and said that I didn't trust her and she sounded hurt and I was like "yeah I'm done goodbye". It's clear she was needy AF. I think a lot of therapists assume they are special to their clients which is an incredibly arrogant and smug assumption. I also have never thanked a therapist. I pay them which is thank you enough.

He may have X number of clients but I only have one therapist.

I got him a gift for his birthday and for Christmas. I do love him and I'd want him to know that.

Maybe even a hint of narcissism....

My therapist thinks its a compliment if I hate him...

So what am I suppose to do when I'm angry?

'I hate...... UGH!'.

I think so, but I do that with most people, I like to treat them as individuals and tailor my interactions. It's not for the sake of pleasing people but I strongly believe that everyone and every relationship is special in its own way, not necessarily good or bad, but unique. And I enjoy pointing out individual features. Many of the interactions I had with my first T was pretty extremely one-of-a-kind, I never had the type of strong negative reactions and was never such a bad combo with anyone in my life, he was definitely special in that sense and I let him know that. Other T more fit a certain pattern in my life was still had unique characteristics that I don't recall experiencing with others, and I brought those up as well.

Yes...BIGLY. it's part of my pattern of humoring, pleasing, groveling and then growing so disgusted with the connection based on lies and flattery that I freak out, lash out, cut and run. I'm trying to change this, and that's why my current T, who inspies little of my neediness and obsequious behavior, is a better fit for me than other past Ts, who were narcissistic AF