Does therapy hurt your feelings?

I voted "Other".

The rejection by, and/or incompetence of, my last T was very painful. It may have activated the mostly numbed-out hurt-feelings system that never healed from my childhood. But it was also its own independent hurt.

It demolished any sense, or illusion, I had of a “safe base” with my therapist, and with the institution or ideal of therapy in general.

Dealing with the new, and old, hurt feelings, over the last 18 months or so, I am gradually coming to experience how it was that I was just not loved in my family, and how that prevented or demolished any solid sense of emotional foundation for my life.

I still lack a solid emotional foundation for my life, and a sense that I am acceptable or lovable to anyone. So – it’s not just a matter to me of pain. It’s a matter that my feelings are really “hurt”, as in damaged, and I haven’t a clue how, when, or if they can recover. My sense of reality, and extensive disappointed hope, says they can’t. But I don’t/can’t know that for sure.

I think people can heal, learn, and get stronger from a little bit of "hurt". We can learn that it won't really kill or permanently damage you. But -- sometimes "hurts" DO damage you, if not permanently at least for a long, long time.