[granite1]

i probably made things worse with my T now. she called me thursday morning to tell me that she was not feeling well and was not going to be in the office so was not going to see me . i was kind of upset and i know it showed in my voice because i didnt want to talk to her i just wanted to get off the phone . i felt like she just didnt want to see me after i was at our last session . i dont blame her and also she does have a right to not see me if she doesnt want to . i think i went way overboard last week and she needed a break i just wish she would say that . anyway i was just giving her attitude with one word answers and all (i know that was immature and all but i was upset ) my apt was supose to be at 3. around 415 i looked at my phone and there was a text from her sent a little after 3 asking me where i am and to contact her asap to let her know what is going on and that she had rescheduled my apt for 5 . i felt so angry because i figured the text must have been for someone else because she had called me twice and texted me once telling me she was not feeling well and was not going to be in the office . i sent her a sarcastic text back saying that the text clearly was for someone else because she had told me she was ill and not going to be in the office .i was hurt about it all and angry she couldnt be honest with me . she sent me back a text saying that the text was for me and that she had recovered and was holding regular office hours and was expecting to see me ..as usual i got everything all messed up . i texted her that i had not been informed of her change of plans and that i had to teach a class and was not going to be able to make it today . she responded with another time of 7 pm .i felt horrible because she was trying to meet with me but i had to teach .in fact her texting was taking me away from the class. she texted me back again asking when could i make it . i this point i was so angry at myself and the situation that i got snappy again telling her i was sorry but was not going to be able to make it and that i needed to get back to teaching my class and will see her next week . now im sure she is angry with me and i dont want her to be . she has a right to feel how she feels and to do what she needs . i got her so angry at me last week and now this .

that's kinda weird. how were you supposed to know she felt better and decided to work after all if she didn't tell you. i'm sorry all this happened, granite.

[TeaVicar?]

Sounds really confusing and sounds like it's her mistake, not yours. She cancelled, then changed her mind, all the while interrupting your work by texting you. Either she can see you or not. I'm sorry, I don't remember the background to your situation with your T but from your op, you have done nothing wrong.

[LonesomeTonight]

I agree that this is very confusing. Your T canceled your appointment, then...apparently uncanceled it without telling you? And then tried to reschedule you for times that didn't work for you? I think you acted in a completely reasonable manner for the situation. I hope you can work things out with your T.

[Albatross2008]

Even if she were angry with you (which would be unreasonable on her part) that's on her to deal with. A good therapist would be the first to tell you we are not responsible for other people's emotions.