[pixiedust72]

I just had my third session with a new therapist and I still feel uncomfortable. Like she doesn't quite get me and I don't quite want to share too much yet. It's not her fault or anything she's done, we just don't have extremely compatible personalities. I had a therapist a few years ago that I felt really comfortable with and was helped so much by. I also saw a therapist briefly for an intake and I felt so comfortable (I cried in my first session and I never cry in therapy- just because I never feel comfortable enough). I wish I could see someone who I felt like those other two experiences with but I just switched to this therapist from another for the same reason. So I don't feel like I can switch again. I just compare the experience to all my past ones.

[Wonderfalls]

You can switch as many times as you need to.

[Ididitmyway]

Why can't you switch again? Seems pointless to continue to waste time with the therapist you can't share much with. The whole point of therapy is being able to share things easily, so if you can't, what's the point of it?

[Favorite Jeans]

Yeah. If you're pretty sure it isn't going to work, you might as well cut your losses and try to find someone with whom you feel more at ease. Especially since you already know what it feels like to have a good therapeutic connection and you know this ain't it.

Is there something that intrigues you about this therapist or that makes you feel like you could benefit from staying? Or is it just that you feel like you "shouldn't want" to switch?

[GeekyOne]

It often takes me at least 4-6 sessions to get to know a T enough to decide if I want to continue with them long term. It usually takes about 6-12 months (of weekly appointments) to get into anything very deep/hard. I'm slow to trust.

Do you have any sense of if this T is someone you could grow to trust? As others have said, there's nothing wrong with trying someone else. That said, I think there's also a period of time especially early in the relationship where the T needs to get to know you (I sometimes call this, jokingly, "training" the T). In the vast majority of cases I suspect it takes time before you can really open up to someone (and that's probably healthy, to some extent).

But it is your choice. You can decide now or at any point in the future that it's not working with this T and stop seeing them for whatever reason you want (including "I just don't want to anymore").

[pixiedust72]

Originally Posted by GeekyOne

It often takes me at least 4-6 sessions to get to know a T enough to decide if I want to continue with them long term. It usually takes about 6-12 months (of weekly appointments) to get into anything very deep/hard. I'm slow to trust.

Do you have any sense of if this T is someone you could grow to trust? As others have said, there's nothing wrong with trying someone else. That said, I think there's also a period of time especially early in the relationship where the T needs to get to know you (I sometimes call this, jokingly, "training" the T). In the vast majority of cases I suspect it takes time before you can really open up to someone (and that's probably healthy, to some extent).

But it is your choice. You can decide now or at any point in the future that it's not working with this T and stop seeing them for whatever reason you want (including "I just don't want to anymore").

The main issue is I don't have that time. She's a counselor at my school and I graduate soon. As I'm writing this I'm realizing that even if I switched I'd only have a month with the therapist before I'd have to stop because I graduate. Not sure what I'm going to do.

[stopdog]

I saw the woman for between 5-6 years and I was never comfortable.