[MissCharlotte]

Young children depend on adults around them to make the world safe. They are forming their knowledge of the world by matching words to the those things that they see. They also match the mood of the moment that is conveyed by the adult who is with them.

If the trusted adult offers a happy/playful mood and attaches it to behavior that is creepy then the child will become confused, because the emotion she feels doesn't match the emotion of the adult she trusts. This is especially true when the adult makes a game out of something that does not feel like fun and the child is asked to participate, and join in the game even if it doesn't feel like a game.

These behaviors haunt us as we become adults who don't trust our emotions and find confusion in the mismatch between what we feel and what we remember when working through difficult issues in therapy.

[sunrise]

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[Mouse_]

This can also happen as young as the fetus in the womb. I often feel feelings of being attacked. My womb enviroment was a hostile one. Alcholic birth mother preparing to be rid of the baby in the womb. The womb is our first experience of enviroment.

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[wisewoman]

WOW

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[Fuzzybear]

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[AAAAA]

Truer words never spoken. It is odd when you think about it. From the earliest age we have the sixth sense to tell this person is creepy. The hair stands up on your arms and the back of your neck. Children need to learn to listen to that sense.

[MissCharlotte]

Well, I think that very young children do feel that sense but are faced with situations beyond their control. They also may find the feelings confusing especially when the adult portrays something completely opposite. It's when we are older and recapture those feelings that we can begin to understand, eh? I know in my family there was a complete lack of boundaries growing up. That's why I feel safe and comforted by the boundaries in the therapeutic relationship.

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[Kiya]

yep - I know that feeling now means get away from that person.... but as a kid, when that person's your dad - what can be done? not much until one is a lot older. now i have told him to leave me alone. but it took 20 some years.

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and what they're told they are / are not feeling.

and they learn there are others who have so much power that they make us disappear.

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