[nottrustin]

Old subject I know; please bare with me. How do you handle it if they give conflicting thoughts?

I ended up disassociating with T1, yesterday. When it happens it takes me a few days to rebound and feel okay. T wants me to try email her less and try other things first. I have this fear she will stop it all if I email her to much.

EMDR T wants me to contact her if it happens so that we can work through it and hopefully rebound quicker. It just seems wrong to contact her about something that happened with T1. Part of me says to contact EMDR T but it feels like I am T splitting or stepping on T1's toes.

What would you do?

[maybeblue]

So your EMDR T asked you to contact her (EMDR T) if you dissociate with T1? If that is the case, I would definitely email EMDR T. You could preface it by saying something like "you asked me to tell you if this happens," just to remind her. Eventually I would expect that if there was something that T1 did that triggered the disassociation you would want to talk to T1 about it too, but I don't think there is anything wrong with getting support first to make sure that you are strong enough to do it.

[nottrustin]

We have never discussed what to so in the case it happens with T1. We have discussed what to do do if it happens during Emdr and I get home and struggling.

I sort of know what might have caused it but couldn't talk about it then. So will discuss that with her at next appointment.

[stopdog]

I would contact whichever one I wanted to use to solve a particular matter.

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Old subject I know; please bare with me. How do you handle it if they give conflicting thoughts?

I ended up disassociating with T1, yesterday. When it happens it takes me a few days to rebound and feel okay. T wants me to try email her less and try other things first. I have this fear she will stop it all if I email her to much.

EMDR T wants me to contact her if it happens so that we can work through it and hopefully rebound quicker. It just seems wrong to contact her about something that happened with T1. Part of me says to contact EMDR T but it feels like I am T splitting or stepping on T1's toes.

What would you do?

What do you need to do? I would formulate a specific plan...like, "when I disassociate after an EMDR session, I will try this, this, and that to get myself out of it. If I need help after xx hours, I will email T1 or EMDR T for extra support" type deal. Then tell both of your t's that is what you need and see if they can agree to it. Do and ask for what is best for you and go from there. And remember, you don't have to email anyone if you don't want to. This is about your needs, not your t's wants.

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by AllHeart

What do you need to do? I would formulate a specific plan...like, "when I disassociate after an EMDR session, I will try this, this, and that to get myself out of it. If I need help after xx hours, I will email T1 or EMDR T for extra support" type deal. Then tell both of your t's that is what you need and see if they can agree to it. Do and ask for what is best for you and go from there. And remember, you don't have to email anyone if you don't want to. This is about your needs, not your t's wants.

Thank you that was very helpful. I need to talk to them both.

The reason EMDR T wants me to contact her if I am struggling after a session with her is she doesn't want me to whit knuckle it to get by. One a few occasions I have called out of work for a day or 2 becausr the headaches are so bad. Als9 she fears if it happens to often and I don't get some help I will develop a few of discussing trauma for fear of it happening again