[stopdog]

Have you ever wanted to make a mix tape for the therapist you hire?
I like various sorts of music, but what music anyone else listens to ever is not a big deal to me. Lyrics are not something I pay all that much attention to.
It has no bearing on therapy for me. It never crossed my mind to wonder what music the woman listened to. She was clueless (or played stupid - she could have been lying) about most classical music.

[LonesomeTonight]

Yes, but mostly because he made a comment to me once, when I was talking about going to a concert, how, "Music has never really done anything for me. I know lots of people are really into it. Just not for me." (or something like that). And it kind of mystified me, because I thought most people were into *some* kind of music (even H's mom likes classical...and the Beatles). I'm so into it that I feel like I'm often a sort of music evangelist, trying to get other people into the bands I like (less so than I used to be, but still a bit). Mostly alternative/indie stuff (though I like some classic rock stuff and early '80s British stuff, too).

[velcro003]

lol at "what is a mix tape." I now feel old.

I put no, but I do talk about songs that are meaningful to me. I got lucky as we have very similar musical interests, so it helps that she knows and understands some of the songs.

[ruh roh]

No. And I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me. It would feel invasive to have someone else's idea of what I should listen to being pushed on me. Now, books are another thing. Not sure why I don't think that's invasive except maybe because she is a big reader. If she said she didn't like books, I would not come in with a stack of them for her to read.

[DP_2017]

No but we have suggested songs to each other. I didn't know people even make mix tapes anymore.

[downandlonely]

It would never occur to me to do that.

[nottrustin]

I have thought of playing a song here and there on occasion for EMDR T. We have discussed our faith and our devotion to the same religion. I have found some Christian music I find her healing. I also know that she enjoys music.

[awkwardlyyours]

Yes -- of audio books (she said she doesn't have time to read and hence).

[Mountaindewed]

7 years ago I wanted to make a mix tape of songs that described how I felt in different periods of my life. I never did though.

[InnerPeace111]

I voted that music has no bearing on therapy for me. I would not want to make a mix tape for my T. It’s just not my thing.

[CharlieStarDust]

Music plays a big part in my therapy; but it never occurred to me to make her a mix tape. Partly because I don't think she'd actually listen, and partly because I don't think it'd mean anything unless I explained why I chose these songs. I have a tendency to interpret songs differently than intended. I'd rather just bring songs up as they come up in discussion.

I said no because I just send her links to videos on youtube.

[growlycat]

Although making a mix tape seems like a huge chore, I have shared a song or two with t. Our tastes are so diffferent. It makes me wonder where he was and what he was doing in the 80s and 90s.

It doesn’t have the meaning for him that it has for me even when I explain it. Technically we are both gen x so the disconnect is hard to understand. I guess he was never an indie rock kind of guy.

[AllHeart]

If I still had my *****in’ boom box with dual cassette /tape decks from the late 80’s, I might consider. Ok, not really. Lol. The thought never entered my mind until this thread. Now the thought has left...permanently. I do wish I still had that boom box though my record player suits me just fine.

[guilloche]

I voted "other".

I sometimes bring songs (not a whole tape!) in to therapy.

Partly, because it's been one way that I share/bond with my piano teacher. So, I sort of hoped it would help me connect better with my therapist. I'm not sure that it has, although it was interesting that she said she saw a "different side of me" that she normally doesn't.

Partly because I was hoping she'd get some of the feelings-stuff that I am apparently awful at not just articulating, but even hinting at, miming, or psychically telegraphing in any meaningful way. But, that really didn't work either.

So, I don't think it's really actually helped much, other than giving me a chance to be happier than normally during T sessions...

I would love to if I thought she would listen to it. Music speaks to me and mirrors my moods. You can tell a lot about my emotions from whatever playlist I am listening too and sometimes I think it might be nice to let music talk for me.

[unaluna]

Other - doesnt anybody care about copyrights anymore?!

[LostOnTheTrail]

I've shared one song with her, after it provoked a really intense emotional response. We're working on taking the wall down, so I can be with all of my emotions, rather than screening off the painful ones.

[annielovesbacon]

I would love to (but I wouldn't) for two reasons: first of all, I know my favorite band is also her favorite band. Second, I want her to listen to the lyrics of my favorite songs (including the songs by our favorite band), because often times (at least in my case) I connect with the lyrics and I think that can be another look into someone's mind.

[Merope]

There are songs that remind me of him/therapy and that make me feel connected to him but I don’t think I’d share—I’d be too mortified that he’d judge my taste in music.

[SalingerEsme]

Originally Posted by growlycat

Although making a mix tape seems like a huge chore, I have shared a song or two with t. Our tastes are so diffferent. It makes me wonder where he was and what he was doing in the 80s and 90s.

It doesn’t have the meaning for him that it has for me even when I explain it. Technically we are both gen x so the disconnect is hard to understand. I guess he was never an indie rock kind of guy.

My experience is similar. My T liked the Foo Fighters back in the day and Rhapsody In Blue plays in his waiting room ( let's be a little more original?); and we both sang in college a cappella groups. However, it seems like he has not heard any music since college. Music seems to annoy T at best, and he once said it is not about some stupid song , he doesn't listen to or care about singing anymore etc. It was very strange so I never brought up music again. It seems like a touchy subject for him. He did bring up seeing Hamilton ( which I have not) . I just don't think T and I have much common ground with music. He would not even accept a mixed tape if I made one( although he accepts Christmas gifts etc).
James Baldwin wrote this in the story Sonny's Blues: " If there's one thing I know about music, it is that most people never really hear it." I worry my T might be like that behind his therapist persona, but I very much hope he does hear music. It is a mystery

[seeker33]

I would if she asked me to although I'm not a huge music fan /music doesn't have much personal meaning to me.
It's the other way round - my T has very gently tried to introduce me to music as a way of dealing with depression and anxiety. Slowly, I've begun to actually want to listen to it sometimes. But still, it isn't something that I would use to share my feelings or thoughts. Drawing comes more naturally to me.
And I think listening to several songs would take a lot of time. I'm not sure if it's OK to ask a T to spend so much time on me between the sessions.
Especially if they don't like my style of music.

[AnnaBegins]

I made one for a former T because I was having a hard time communicating with him and I felt like the music did a much better job of it than I was. He said he appreciated it.

[rainbow8]

Okay. Could someone tell me what a mix tape is please? Is it more than putting parts of different songs together on one tape?

I have sung my favorite songs in my session. I think T likes old Broadway musicals and movie themes like I do. I also like Grace Vanderwahl, reliving my teens! I doubt my T knows who she is.

[BonnieJean]

No to mix tapes. (Prolly more like burn disks now but maybe even that's old). Like Artiest, I've sent the occasional You Tube link to t.