[coolibrarian]

Just got out of my session. Found out that T is having a medical procedure done. Long story short, she told me that she is very optimistic and so far all her tests have looked good. I immediately burst into tears. I won't see her again until May 30th, although I can ask for an abbreviated phone session. There's more, but enough, for now. PLEASE help me get through this.

[weaverbeaver]

Originally Posted by coolibrarian

Just got out of my session. Found out that T is having a medical procedure done. Long story short, she told me that she is very optimistic and so far all her tests have looked good. I immediately burst into tears. I won't see her again until May 30th, although I can ask for an abbreviated phone session. There's more, but enough, for now. PLEASE help me get through this.

It’s so hard isn’t it because ya are a part of our lives but we are not a real part of theirs.
I struggled with this with my second t. She went for a major operation and was optimistic but I wasn’t, I honestly thought she would die. She didn’t and recovered well but I was so worried that something would go wrong and how would I know, a lot of anxiety rose from her operation but for no real reason.
Were your tears for her or for you?
Or maybe they were for both of you, that you won’t see her and really care about her and for her because she is sick!

[88Butterfly88]

[guilloche]

I'll keep your T (and you!) in my thoughts. I hope the operation goes smoothly, and she has an amazingly fast and easy recovery.

Have you thought about what you're going to do to get through the next couple weeks? Any chance you can plan something special for the days you'd normally have T, but have to miss it because of this? Or, maybe write a nice letter/card for your T? Or some journaling? Or artsy stuff?

Hang in there! (Hoping the time doesn't pass too slowly for you!)

[rainbow8]

I am SO sorry, CL. I would be worried about my T too, if she were having surgery. Maybe journaling would help, or making her a get well card. I hope the time passes quickly for you! You can post more here. You'll get support and validation, and hugs!

Mine told me today Thst she's having a medical procedure done next week.
We talked about it. It's not life threatening so I'm ovey with it.

[coolibrarian]

I plan to do a lot of writing/journalling. I am a writer, so that's not going to be a problem. What MIGHT be a problem is that her office is in the same building as my psychiatrist, and I am seeing him in about an hour. My T told me more about her issue than I thought she would (probably because of my experience of child abuse and neglect, and being left out of things a lot), but last night I thought of some more questions to ask her, so I may call her.

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by weaverbeaver

It’s so hard isn’t it because ya are a part of our lives but we are not a real part of theirs.
I struggled with this with my second t. She went for a major operation and was optimistic but I wasn’t, I honestly thought she would die. She didn’t and recovered well but I was so worried that something would go wrong and how would I know, a lot of anxiety rose from her operation but for no real reason.
Were your tears for her or for you?
Or maybe they were for both of you, that you won’t see her and really care about her and for her because she is sick!

My tears were for both of us. I told her I was feeling 2 things, concurrently: that I wanted to take care of her, and that I was very scared of losing her. She encouraged me not to go to the place of loss, but rather look at the things I have been given lately (like a closer relationship with my daughter, my book being published, etc.).

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by guilloche

I'll keep your T (and you!) in my thoughts. I hope the operation goes smoothly, and she has an amazingly fast and easy recovery.

Thank you. I told her I would pray for her. She said prayers are appreciated.

Have you thought about what you're going to do to get through the next couple weeks? Any chance you can plan something special for the days you'd normally have T, but have to miss it because of this?

I'm not sure, yet.

Or, maybe write a nice letter/card for your T?

I've thought about this, but I'm not sure it's appropriate.

Or some journaling?

Yes, definitely.

Or artsy stuff?

I'm not very good at visual art. I may play some of my musical instruments, however.

Hang in there! (Hoping the time doesn't pass too slowly for you!)

Thanks so much!

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I am SO sorry, CL. I would be worried about my T too, if she were having surgery. Maybe journaling would help, or making her a get well card. I hope the time passes quickly for you! You can post more here. You'll get support and validation, and hugs!

Thanks so much, Rainbow. I will continue posting here, as I feel the need to.

[wheeler]

When my T had surgery she offered to text me as soon as she could.It helped a lot. Maybe you could ask that of your t?

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by wheeler

When my T had surgery she offered to text me as soon as she could.It helped a lot. Maybe you could ask that of your t?

She doesn't text with clients.

[coolibrarian]

Just came back from seeing my psychiatrist. He told me I could call him for support, if need be, during (or after) the next 3 weeks, until I see T again.

[wheeler]

When my T had surgery she offered to text me as soon as she could.It helped a lot. Maybe you could ask that of your t?

[skeksi]

This happened to my T a few years ago. It was a serious situation but he felt very positive about it and simply said he would see me as scheduled at our session in 3 weeks (and indeed he did).

I mentally blocked out our regular session to think about therapy-ish things and I did a lot of meditation sending out good vibes and positive healing thoughts. It helped me and I hope it helped him.

The length of the break was hard—I definitely found a new tv show to binge watch and I did some spring cleaning around the house to distract me, too.