[20oney]

So I've recently moved to a new place. Too far from original T to stick with her which sucks because after a year and a half, I was starting to get comfortable... But, such is life, I made these choices to move away and thus I must deal with the consequences..

The way that the relationship with former T has ended has been, not great. Because it hasn't really ended. Our final session was great, but due to the fact that I had no T lined up and I've been delaying finding one, my T has kept email contact open. Which has been great. But now that I have found a new T, I'm not sure what I'm meant to do... I'd love to keep contact, but I feel like that would be overstepping a boundary. I also don't want to stop contact without saying anything because that seems wrong.. But I also don't want to say anything

She suggested that I should try find a male T ( I am female ), as I tend to connect better with males in my personal life.. So. I've found one, we had our first session last week and it went fine. I found him a little strange, but I'm hoping that it was more the first session nerves than anything. We're starting out with fortnightly sessions as my schedule has very little spare time. However, I feel like I am going to fall back into the trap of therapy whereby I spend a lot of my days mulling over the session that was, and the session to come.. Weekly would be more ideal for me. Which would involve me making time to go. But I'm not sure, I don't want to go weekly because A - it's expensive, and B - I don't want to appear nor become dependant. I do want to go weekly because I want that comfort, I want that safe space. I want to go into this relationship openly, because I tend to wear a mask and I really need to not do that in therapy. I need to be open, honest... With former T, out sessions were largely reliant upon email contact between sessions, but I want to learn to speak my mind face to face I guess...

Is it too early to start writing things down? I think it is.. I flipping hate this.

Probably a conversation that I should have with said T, but, highly unlikely.

I'm not sure that there is a question here.. But any advice going forward...?

[Lemoncake]

Personally I don't see anything wrong with keeping up contact with your previous T if she's okay with it.

You could initially start off weekly then change later on. I would also ask the new T what his out of session contact policy was.

[CantExplain]

If your old T wants to go for a clean break, it's up to her to say so.