[nottrustin]

This morning I received an email from my T's email address but it was from her significant other. Stating that she is trying to read T's schedule and thinks I have an appointment tomorrow. T is in the hospital and will be unavailable for an extended period of time. And said if I was reached in error and don't have an appointment to please email back.

I responded that yes I have an appointment and asked if everything is going to be okay and said T was in my thoughts and prayers.

Im so physically sick right now and can barely breath and stand up. Can't be a good situation. T is very serious about confidentiality of her client. So for her to have somebody else reach out to all her clients makes me very scared. I doubt she asked him to...but who onows.

[weaverbeaver]

I often wondered what would happen in that situation! So sorry you had to find out, that must have been a big shock for you. Was your t in good health?
How do you feel about her husband emailing you? This is a lot to process

[nottrustin]

T is in her late 60s. She suffers from a chronic medical condition. A few months ago she had emergency surgery that they said could have killed her but the fixed the issue that was likely something she had since birth. She was a couple of weeks but was feeling well. Only other issue is arthritis.

I am glad somebody reached out to her clients. I know that it must be an emergency for her not to do it herself. He also doesn't want anything to do with her T business for confidentially reasons. I do wish he gave a tiny bit more in for like what is an extended period of time...was she in an accident, is it her chronic medical issue, would he or she update us when info is available etc...

It is A LOT to deal with right now. I am debating if I should reach out to EMDR T or wait to see if I hear anything else

Oh my gosh that would scare me too. I hope everything is ok with your t!!

[LonesomeTonight]

Hugs...that sounds so scary, I'm sorry. Hugs if you want them.


For what it's worth, after seeing some discussion on here, I asked T (who is in solo private practice) what his plans were if something happened to him. He said his wife would contact his clients. So I suspect that's a common approach when in private practice (whether spouse, SO, other family member, colleague...)

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs...that sounds so scary, I'm sorry. Hugs if you want them.


For what it's worth, after seeing some discussion on here, I asked T (who is in solo private practice) what his plans were if something happened to him. He said his wife would contact his clients. So I suspect that's a common approach when in private practice (whether spouse, SO, other family member, colleague...)

Hugs definitely are appreciated. Her SO is the logical person she is very private and her child lives out of state. My bigger concern is that she is likely bad off if she is having somebody else making the contact. If he said she had surgery and exhausted and unable to contact me for whatever reason that would be okay but it states nothing.

[DP_2017]

I can't imagine, I would lose my mind for sure.

I'm sorry this happened for you and I hope she is ok in the end, whatever happened

[Amyjay]

I think it would be okay to reach out to EMDR T in the circumstances. My first T left her practise because she was pregnant and explained that she had procedures in place for another T to contact her clients if she had to leave suddenly. She said it is standard practise for Ts to have something in place for such scenarios... like a trusted person has access to a sealed envelope (with a password to access a file with contact details and appointment times for current clients that is only opened in case of T being debilitated).
I am so sorry this is happening, especially not knowing anything about what is going on. I would go ahead and make plans for ongoing support with EMDR T or another T instead of waiting to hear more about current T. It sounds like it will be a while.

[maybeblue]

I would absolutely reach out to your EMDR therapist and tell her what you found out, and give her the contact information for your therapist's SO. One of my therapists is in a group practice, so I assume if something happened to him someone else from the practice would contact me. My other therapist is in a solo practice, and she told me that she had a plan for her husband to contact another therapist who would make the contact if needed.

If your EMDR therapist knows your therapist then she might be willing to give your therapist's SO her contact info for updates. And at the very least, she can provide you support right now.

[nottrustin]

I sent EMDR T a text. Nott sure if I will hear back tonight since it is a Sunday evening.

Thank you everyone. Usually my best friend is a good support person. However she thinks it could just be that T is to tired to contact everybody which I pray is the case. However, no matter how sick she has been she been even after surgery she sends a quick message of "x happened I will be okay but will need to cancel next appointment." Because if HIPAA I highly doubt she would have somebody else do it because she is tired.

hoping all turns out well for your t

[Fuzzybear]

[nottrustin]

Omg this sucks. Trying to think positive but the not knowing is killing me.

I would be completely miserable and terrified too. I hate it when my therapist has an emergency and sometimes days go by before she can tell me what happened. I am so sorry something is wrong with your T.
Please keep us updated whenever you find out anything!

[toomanycats]

Ooh I am so sorry - yes, the not knowing... ugh... I'm so sorry. I'm glad you reached out to EMDR T - lean heavily on her/him... it's ok to do so.

[*Laurie*]

I really feel bad for you. What a rotten turn of events. I'd find out all you can; you deserve to know what has happened.

[healinginprogress]

I'm so sorry. I would be going crazy. I hope you get information soon and I'm glad you reached out to your EMDR T.

[rainbow8]

I'm sorry too. I hope you hear something soon, or early tomorrow morning. The not knowing is awful, I know. Try to think positive thoughts though it's difficult. Hugs to you.

[RaineD]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. What you're describing is literally my worst nightmare.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs...that sounds so scary, I'm sorry. Hugs if you want them.


For what it's worth, after seeing some discussion on here, I asked T (who is in solo private practice) what his plans were if something happened to him. He said his wife would contact his clients. So I suspect that's a common approach when in private practice (whether spouse, SO, other family member, colleague...)

my t said his wife would contact me too

[junkDNA]

sorry that must be so anxiety provoking
hang in there and I hope your T is ok

I hope your T will be OK

[wheeler]

I can only imagine how hard this must be. Hopefully you’ll get more info soon.

[nottrustin]

Woke up and no news. I am trying6 to honor all the work we have done over the last 11 years and stay positive. My instinct was to drink last night to numb my thoughts and fears. However, I refrained as that is something we have been working on. Besides just the thought of food makes me want to vomit right now. A part of me is worried I will never see her again but being optimistic that is is a fighter and will at least reach out by phone. A part of me keeps thinking it is a joke and thay they had a fight and he somehow got a hold of her information. Or that something happened and it isn't all that bad but they are trying out the backup plan that she is putting in place. So many things going on in my head. A part of me wants to email her and just say. I don't know what has happened but k ow that I care and am praying for a speedy recovery.

My coworkers have commented that I look tired and sick...pretty much sums it up. Unfortunately do some recent changes at work nobody else knows my job.

[nottrustin]

To make matters worse, EMDR T has nor responded to my text. Trying so hard to keep it together