[Whalen84]

So I wrote another post on here explaining the **** storm I've been going through with my former social worker. She did a lot of ****ed up stuff and it got to the point where I've filed an ethics complaint against her. Well one of the ****ed up things she did was tell me where she lives. She didn't say 'I live at 123 XXXXXXX St. But what she did say was I live at the end of XXXXXXX St. And then at a later date showed me a picture of her house. The thing is I know exactly where that is. It's like only 50 yards away from a spot I like to go and look at the water (theres a big river at the end of the street ) to relax. Back in Feb when were tried to 'reset the boundaries' cause stuff had gotten too friendly, I brought up the fact I was pissed that she had told me this. I said it was hard to feel comfortable there now ( still true) - and I was totally baffled by her response. She said 'well anybody could look up where I live. It's on the internet. It's public information.' .....but.....i didn't look it up on the internet.....you told me.....Needless to say I was pissed and shocked. I should have called her out on her BS but I didn't. I should have walked away right there cause even at that point i could see the way she was dealing with issues she didn't wanna face was by lying and mitigating the true. Anyway I really like this spot. I hate to have to give it up. There are other just as beautiful spots on the other side of the river that I've found but I guess I'm feeling stubborn. I don't wanna give up a spot that means so much to me just because it's so close to her house. I'm actually sitting here right now. I gotta say I do feel pretty uncomfortable but I was just wondering what you guys thought. Does it seem worth it? What would you guys Do? I feel like planting a flag here. I'm so angry at her about so many other things, this is just like such an annoying piece of what the ****ness I really don't feel like dealing with. Anyway thanks

[SalingerEsme]

I relate to this, because I would feel the same. Even knowing which town my T lives in leads me to avoid all the parks and restaurants there. I get like this in general with people, and it I can see why it would ruin your enjoyment of the peaceful spot.

[SlumberKitty]

I think if you like that spot, then you have every right to go to that spot. Just because it happens to be next to where she lives, that is not a problem that you created. So go there and enjoy that spot and try to block out that its by where she lives if you can. I don't see why you would need to give up a spot that you find relaxing.

[coolibrarian]

Can you block her on social media and/or your phone?

[seeker33]

It's a cool spot, I like rivers, too. Well I'd try to go there as usual and make it an exercise in assertivity. Something like "I have a full right to be here!". It can be very empowering, claiming a piece of land for yourself. It's a kind of a primal instict and i could be very therapeutic if you can do that.

[maybeblue]

I can totally understand that. I'd be feeling the same way I am sure. It isn't fair. It's like punishing you for being a victim. But I think it is great that you are being unwilling to give up your spot, even though it makes you are uncomfortable, and I think you should keep going there whenever you want to.

I do wonder though if you have a plan for if you accidentally run into her.

[Lemoncake]

I can honestly understand. I have a favorite spot and I'd hate to lose it because of the association.

[stopdog]

I don't think it is your problem. Go where you want and do what you want. Don't seek out the therapist or sit on her lawn furniture, but other than that, I would not change my habits

[Deejay14]

Well that wasn't too smart on her part. I would just be careful that nothing you say could be misconstrued as harmful to her in any way. Other than that, enjoy your spot. If knowing she lives nearby somehow taints your spot then maybe find a new spot.