[Raging Quiet]

How often does you T go over time with you?

[Salmon77]

Never. My sessions begin and end on time.

usually quite often.

then again that's usually my fault because I have lots to say

and rather than tell me time's up she just lets me talk

or sometimes she'll say time's up, but I'll say to her something and she'll be like.. oh tell me more, or something

[Raging Quiet]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

usually quite often.

then again that's usually my fault because I have lots to say

and rather than tell me time's up she just lets me talk

or sometimes she'll say time's up, but I'll say to her something and she'll be like.. oh tell me more, or something

Do you mind me asking how many minutes over?

[lucozader]

Depends what you mean by 'over time'. We go over by about five minutes sometimes - I'm the last session of the day and he never seems in any rush to get me out of the door.

Never any more than that, and I don't think I'd be comfortable with any more than that.

[stopdog]

Never. I would not allow it. I kept track of time and walked out when it was up.

Originally Posted by Raging Quiet

Do you mind me asking how many minutes over?

10, 20, sometimes 30...

no longer than 30 though

[healinginprogress]

Pretty often. But we're working on staying in the allotted time frame.

[Lemoncake]

Just a few moments a minute or two when I was crying heavily.

[Echos Myron redux]

I make sure I stop on the hour. It's my boundary.

A few sessions ago, on time, he said "this feels unresolved, I feel I need to respond" then I waited and he responded. His response didn't help. We went over by a couple of minutes for the first time ever. Don't think we'll be doing that again.

[NP_Complete]

Maybe once or twice a month he'll ask me sit with him for a few more minutes which usually ends up being 5 minutes or so. Once I was there for 15 minutes after a particularly difficult session. Sometimes he will tell me there's no rush, that there's no one after me. For context, I go three times a week, so it's not like it's every other session that this happens.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

Depends on how you define over time. We never agreed on an actual fixed time that a session would last for. In the beginning, it was closer to 40-45 minutes. That still happens sometimes. Most of the times it's an hour or a bit more though. I feel the length of my sessions depends more on the things we discuss than on some kind of set in stone time at which we will end.

[Argonautomobile]

Never in 3 years. We rarely even get through the full time.

[CharlieStarDust]

In 7 years, maybe 2-3 times by 10-15 min. I can’t recall the circumstances, but it wasn’t crisis related. I think we just caught up in the discussion and getting somewhere.

[Amyjay]

It used to be never because I always made sure I stopped the session on time, but we've entered into different territory now and I realize we go over most sessions by a few minutes. Never by much, mostly between 5-10 minutes, though once it was 20. I think T is trying to get us to end differently. I used to just stand up and go at end time now matter what we were in the middle of and I think SHE doesn't like that! She seems to be trying to get us to find a more gentle way to leave. It doesn't bother us!

[nottrustin]

Most sessions go over by at least a few minutes with my Ts. I am the last client of the day for both T's so it wasn't an issue.

[88Butterfly88]

Once or twice with current t. With old t more often. Once with old t I told her I had something to tell her that was keeping me up at night but couldn't. Session was coming to an end and she said she wasn't letting me leave until I told her. At first I was annoyed, felt like she was holding me against my will. But then after a few minutes I just told her because it made me feel like she really cared. She refused to accept any money for the overtime. It took about 15 minutes.

[skeksi]

On rare occasions we will go over by 2-3minutes, sometimes 5, but never more. I like that he keeps us to the appointed time, he always starts exactly on time.

we dont have a set time to talk. generally we talk 3-4 hours at a time. however we have spent whole days together many times where we talked 8hours. I have DID and there are always many many alters who want to talk to her, so we never run out of things to say.

[feileacan]

My T never goes over time. The session starts exactly on time and ends exactly on time. Or wait a minute, that's certainly true with the in person sessions in the consultation room.

Lately we have moved one session per week to skype (for T's personal reasons) and although he keeps strict time there as well, my last skype session log shows that we went over almost a minute. That would never happen in person session.

[GeekyOne]

Frequently, I think. I'm not sure how long our appointments are supposed to be, but she usually keeps me about an hour. I'm usually the last client of the day and she often will stay an extra 5-10 minutes beyond the hour with me if I seem to need it.

I'm always surprised by how many people here talk about being 1-2 minutes over/under whatever. I guess in my life, time is precise only to +/-5 minute-ish intervals. 1-2 minutes could be a difference in clocks or whatever. I've never had an appointment of any kind be held to less than a 5 minute precision.

[Merope]

Quite frequently. I have had sessions that have gone over for 15-25 minutes.

[DP_2017]

Every single session, it is a good benefit of being last of the day. How long over, I've had one nearly 2 hrs once... typically around 20-30 min over though.

[starfishing]

Not uncommon to go over by 5 minutes or so, depending on how closely he's watching the time and what type of material we've gotten into at the end of the session. If we're in something heavy that's difficult for me to pull myself out of abruptly, he'll often let things run a few minutes long so that I can resurface a little before leaving. Or very occasionally if I'm in uncharted territory and talking about something new, or something especially difficult, we've gone over by 10-15 minutes, probably partially because the particulars of the material distracted him from timekeeping, and partially because he made a decision to give a little more leeway to see where things went.

[malika138]

In eleven years, never. And it is not uncommon for no one to be in the waiting room when I leave.