Has the therapist ever said these things to you?

WarmFuzzySocks · Sep 07, 2018 at 01:57 PM

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Again, not saying therapists aren’t being honest, but looking at the list, some of these statements about client characteristics—how can the therapist really know? In the space of an hour you might be able to pick up on intelligence, and over time whether a client is working hard, but brave, honest, show their true nature in therapy—how does the therapist know when they see the client for such a small percentage of the clients’ lives and they are dependent on the client for information about what happens outside of therapy? After years together, perhaps, but before that?

Yes. As a matter of fact, my t said something to me at one of my recent sessions that I still find myself wondering about: How could she possibly know that about me?

I dunno. Maybe that's why therapy works the way it does? T and client can only work together on what the client brings into the room. If it seems brave or strong or honest, then that's what the t has to go on. T's response isn't going to be affected by me being irritable and short that morning before I had my coffee or what she remembers me being like in high school.

SalingerEsme · Sep 07, 2018 at 03:17 PM

I think conceptual thinking, analytical thinking, insight etc are qualities a T could readily judge against other clients . I agree with LT that many on PC are strong in these areas

stopdog · Sep 07, 2018 at 03:57 PM

I haven't seen much that I would describe in that way, but maybe.

CantExplain · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I think conceptual thinking, analytical thinking, insight etc are qualities a T could readily judge against other clients . I agree with LT that many on PC are strong in these areas

Also courage and hard work.

stopdog · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:18 PM

PC where the women are strong, the men are good looking, and everyone is above average

SlumberKitty · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:20 PM

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PC where the women are strong, the men are good looking, and everyone is above average

I love that!

stopdog · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:27 PM

I was being sarcastic.

CantExplain · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:41 PM

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I was being sarcastic.

No, it's true!

ChickenNoodleSoup · Sep 07, 2018 at 04:55 PM

My T has said I'm quick to pick up on things (which has been said by a number of people, so I kind of believe him), that he cares and that he's affected by things I say sometimes. The last two I'd expect therapists to say, the caring is part of the job and the being affected is just being honest, I don't think it's possible to not be affected at all.

stopdog · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:11 PM

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No, it's true!

Since there is absolutely no way for me to respond fully to this sentiment in a manner that could be considered supportive under even a bare minimum of what that word might encompass, let us just agree to disagree.

atisketatasket · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

PC where the women are strong, the men are good looking, and everyone is above average

We’re all characters in Lake Wobegon?

I knew that lake effect snow was coming from somewhere.

Sep 07, 2018 at 05:20 PM

I think many of us PC'ers are good at analysis paralysis. And either caring about the therapist's every little dirty secret or trying to annihilate them.

SlumberKitty · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I was being sarcastic.

Oh. I have trouble discerning sarcasm. IRL as well as online. But I still liked the sentiment.

CantExplain · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Oh. I have trouble discerning sarcasm. IRL as well as online. But I still liked the sentiment.

Don't feel bad. Almost no one knows if Stopdog is being serious or not.

I sometimes think her whole ouvre is a hoax.

stopdog · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Oh. I have trouble discerning sarcasm. IRL as well as online. But I still liked the sentiment.

It is fine with me if you like it. Just wanted to clarify what I meant.

velcro003 · Sep 07, 2018 at 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Again, not saying therapists aren’t being honest, but looking at the list, some of these statements about client characteristics—how can the therapist really know? In the space of an hour you might be able to pick up on intelligence, and over time whether a client is working hard, but brave, honest, show their true nature in therapy—how does the therapist know when they see the client for such a small percentage of the clients’ lives and they are dependent on the client for information about what happens outside of therapy? After years together, perhaps, but before that?

My T hasn't used these exact phrases that I checked, but none of them were early on in therapy. The "I care about you" was just recently at 3 years when I went to an inpatient setting for a few weeks. She actually didn't say it to me, she said it to another T there, but I was standing right next to her.

Anything complimentary she has said was said in context to whatever we were talking about, and if I might not believe her, I do think she is being genuine and honest as to what she sees.

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SalingerEsme Grand Poohbah Member Since Jul 2017 Location: Neverland Posts: 1,806 7 4,994 hugs given	Sep 07, 2018 at 03:17 PM #42 I think conceptual thinking, analytical thinking, insight etc are qualities a T could readily judge against other clients . I agree with LT that many on PC are strong in these areas __________________ Living things don’t all require/ light in the same degree. Louise Gluck
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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,051 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Sep 07, 2018 at 03:57 PM #43 I haven't seen much that I would describe in that way, but maybe. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,051 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Sep 07, 2018 at 04:18 PM #45 PC where the women are strong, the men are good looking, and everyone is above average __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 35,051 (SuperPoster!) 13 1 hugs given	Sep 07, 2018 at 04:27 PM #47 I was being sarcastic. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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ChickenNoodleSoup Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2017 Location: In a land far far away Posts: 1,652 7 1,336 hugs given	Sep 07, 2018 at 04:55 PM #49 My T has said I'm quick to pick up on things (which has been said by a number of people, so I kind of believe him), that he cares and that he's affected by things I say sometimes. The last two I'd expect therapists to say, the caring is part of the job and the being affected is just being honest, I don't think it's possible to not be affected at all.
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Anonymous55498 Guest Posts: n/a	Sep 07, 2018 at 05:20 PM #52 I think many of us PC'ers are good at analysis paralysis. And either caring about the therapist's every little dirty secret or trying to annihilate them.
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