Has the therapist ever said these things to you?

stopdog · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:00 PM

Has the therapist ever said these things to you? multiple responses are allowed on the poll
Do you think it was sincere or just what they say to clients?

88Butterfly88 · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:03 PM

I don't see a poll.

stopdog · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:10 PM

patience grasshopper

Sep 06, 2018 at 06:15 PM

Yes to all, except my english isnt good enough to understand what the last one means.

atisketatasket · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:17 PM

Geez, none of them ever said we got along really well. I can’t imagine why.

I mean, huh?

stopdog · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:19 PM

The crazy part is - the two I just finished seeing both said all of these things to me. The get along well was put a bit differently but basically they said it. ("our relationship was really solid" is what the first one said)

Salmon77 · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:23 PM

Sort of? For a couple of these things. My T will say things like "I wouldn't work with someone I didn't like," so logically that means he likes me, but he never says "I like you" or anything like that in a direct way.

stopdog · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Starry_Night

Yes to all, except my english isnt good enough to understand what the last one means.

That the client affects/effects them

Sep 06, 2018 at 06:25 PM

My T has said a couple of these things to me, and no, I do not believe they were being sincere.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:32 PM

Yes to most of them for current T, many of those for ex-MC, and a fair number for ex-T.

DP_2017 · Sep 06, 2018 at 06:38 PM

Variations for like 2 but mostly no. I'd cringe too much because all of that seems to therapist like. That would bug me.

Sep 06, 2018 at 06:38 PM

"You are brave/strong" and the things about insightfulness, intelligence and being psychologically minded. How surprising for a therapy client spending all that time analyzing psychological patterns and paying high $ to share it with them! Both of them also said that I was easy to like/likeable but I did not click the "I care about/like you" option as that has a different connotation. None of the others. I don't think these are very meaningful or specific at all.

susannahsays · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:39 PM

The therapist has said that I am smart and that she cares about me. I didn't believe her when she said these things, and the fact that these appear to be the most frequently used nonsense phrases used by therapists seems to suggest that I was right.

velcro003 · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:45 PM

I put down four:

1: It is an honor/pleasure to work with you (she said that she feels honored when i have shared really hard stuff with her)

2: We get along well (she has said something similar to this, and I agree that we do get along well).

3: You arevery smart/intellgient (she hasn't used the word "very," but she told me I was intelligent, and another T said a sense of humor is a sign of intelligence

4: I care about/like you (she has told me this recently, when I was in the "nut house.")

velcro003 · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:46 PM

The only one I didn't dismiss was #2.

SlumberKitty · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:47 PM

My former T said multiple times that she cares about me and I believe her. I think she meant it for sure. New T hasn't said any of this stuff but she did say I have a lot of coping skills. T3 didn't think I had any coping skills and told me so.

JaneTennison1 · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:47 PM

No I dont think she has. She knows I hate compliments and that they do nothing for my esteem so she tends to stay away. I think she once said I was smart.

koru_kiwi · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:56 PM

you need an 'all the above' selection, because i've heard them all. and here i was thinking that i was the only one stroking anyone's ego in that room....

TishaBuv · Sep 06, 2018 at 07:59 PM

None of those were said to me, lol. I stopped seeing every therapist fairly soon. They said some strange, hurtful things to me that really stung so I didn’t go back to them for more.

88Butterfly88 · Sep 06, 2018 at 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

patience grasshopper

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88Butterfly88 Moderator Community Support Team Member Since Dec 2015 Location: New Jersey Posts: 54,247 (SuperPoster!) 8 10.5k hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:03 PM #2 I don't see a poll.
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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,831 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:10 PM #3 patience grasshopper __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
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Anonymous47147 Guest Posts: n/a	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:15 PM #4 Yes to all, except my english isnt good enough to understand what the last one means.
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,191 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:17 PM #5 Geez, none of them ever said we got along really well. I can’t imagine why. I mean, huh?
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Salmon77 Poohbah Member Since Mar 2014 Location: PNW Posts: 1,394 10 106 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:23 PM #7 Sort of? For a couple of these things. My T will say things like "I wouldn't work with someone I didn't like," so logically that means he likes me, but he never says "I like you" or anything like that in a direct way.
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Anonymous56387 Guest Posts: n/a	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:25 PM #9 My T has said a couple of these things to me, and no, I do not believe they were being sincere.
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,989 (SuperPoster!) 9 75.3k hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:32 PM #10 Yes to most of them for current T, many of those for ex-MC, and a fair number for ex-T.
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DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,414 6 665 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 06:38 PM #11 Variations for like 2 but mostly no. I'd cringe too much because all of that seems to therapist like. That would bug me. __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love.
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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 6 1 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:39 PM #13 The therapist has said that I am smart and that she cares about me. I didn't believe her when she said these things, and the fact that these appear to be the most frequently used nonsense phrases used by therapists seems to suggest that I was right.
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velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:46 PM #15 The only one I didn't dismiss was #2.
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:47 PM #16 My former T said multiple times that she cares about me and I believe her. I think she meant it for sure. New T hasn't said any of this stuff but she did say I have a lot of coping skills. T3 didn't think I had any coping skills and told me so.
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JaneTennison1 Magnate Member Since Aug 2014 Location: US Posts: 2,202 9 121 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:47 PM #17 No I dont think she has. She knows I hate compliments and that they do nothing for my esteem so she tends to stay away. I think she once said I was smart.
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koru_kiwi Veteran Member Member Since Oct 2011 Location: the sunny side of the street Posts: 672 12 1,231 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:56 PM #18 you need an 'all the above' selection, because i've heard them all. and here i was thinking that i was the only one stroking anyone's ego in that room....
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TishaBuv Legendary Member Since Dec 2014 Location: USA Posts: 10,258 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,879 hugs given	Sep 06, 2018 at 07:59 PM #19 None of those were said to me, lol. I stopped seeing every therapist fairly soon. They said some strange, hurtful things to me that really stung so I didn’t go back to them for more. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T
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