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Magnate
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This therapist, as all therapists, should know about the vicious cycle of switching roles between victim, perpetrator and rescuer. It's a well-known psychological theory of a victim-abuser-rescuer triangle that says that abuse victims often unconsciously try to ease their pain and to compensate for their sense of powerlessness by becoming either perpetrators or rescuers of other victims or both (most likely). By becoming perpetrators they try to symbolically take their power back in a destructive way by exerting control over the other person, and by becoming a rescuer of other victims (which often takes a form of activism or advocacy) they transcend their pain (or think that they transcend it) by becoming a powerful hero who saves lives of others (again symbolically). In most cases, a person switches between those three roles all the time. Victims can become abusive in their relationships with others as well as "rescuers" and then get victimized again.. and the mary goes round.. The idea is to get out of this vicious cycle completely and be nether a victim or a perpetrator or a rescuer, not to switch roles. Healing can start only when the person is no longer on that carousel. As long as they switch roles, nothing will change. ... (Besides the physical touch that this exercise would involve is inappropriate in a professional relationship and especially when working with a victim of sexual abuse regardless of what the exercise is intended to do.) So, I am still baffled how such idea can come to a trained professional.. |
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here today, precaryous
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