[Capacity]

I think my therapist is being inappropriate with me (I’m female, male therapist). I don’t want to say too much here in case he checks these forums. Could I please talk privately with someone who can give me some feedback about his behavior? A lot has happened and I really don’t know what to think or how to proceed.

Thank you

[SlumberKitty]

I see this is your first post. Welcome to PC! I don't personally have any experience with a male therapist being inappropriate with me (I've only had female therapists) but I'm sure there are people here who have. I hope you get some support. kit.

[DP_2017]

Welcome

You can message me anytime. I try to be as non judging as possible as my T is very boundary crossing, however in my case, I love it....I'd be happy to give you feedback about your situation if you wish

[justbreathe1994]

Originally Posted by Capacity

I think my therapist is being inappropriate with me (I’m female, male therapist). I don’t want to say too much here in case he checks these forums. Could I please talk privately with someone who can give me some feedback about his behavior? A lot has happened and I really don’t know what to think or how to proceed.

Thank you

I am sorry for what you are going through. I have experienced some trauma I. my own therapy. Feel free to message me if you want to talk.

[Ididitmyway]

You can PM me. I will give you my opinion in general terms.

[Fuzzybear]

You can also PM me if you want to, and I’ll give you my opinion (in general terms too)

[Echos Myron redux]

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

You can PM me. I will give you my opinion in general terms.

IDIMY would be a good person to talk to IMO. You can always message me too if you want to. I have had an unethical male therapist and I now have an ethical one.

[InnerPeace111]

Welcome. Trust your gut. Always.

[blackocean]

I would also like to help if you are willing to PM me your story. I am female with a male therapist.

[Capacity]

Ok, thank you everyone who replied. I really appreciate it because I don’t have anyone I can run this by. I’ll PM you the details tonight when I get home. I apologize in advance if it is long. Any advice is appreciated.

[Capacity]

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

You can PM me. I will give you my opinion in general terms.

Thank you, I will send as soon as it allows me to. Apparently i need to post 3 more times first.

[Capacity]

Originally Posted by justbreathe1994

I am sorry for what you are going through. I have experienced some trauma I. my own therapy. Feel free to message me if you want to talk.

TY, I will.

[Capacity]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

You can also PM me if you want to, and I’ll give you my opinion (in general terms too)

TY, I will after it gives me permission.

[Capacity]

It won’t let me send PMs until I post a few more times 😕

[missbella]

In general, if therapy feels wrong or intrusive, if it causes more problems than it helps, the client is free to consider other options. I don’t think we need to justify our choices or answer to anyone else—leaving a practice isn’t truancy. Each of us is entitled to decide our own comfort level and boundaries and when they’re crossed.

[SalingerEsme]

I have a male T who is super-conscious of safe boundaries , while still being emotional & intimate in a therapy sense. It is a touching experience overall to be that safe with a human male. No touch is oddly touching. Feeing safe in therapy is a so important, that I hope you resolve this by seeking a definitive answer and feeling empowered to act on it, whatever you decide is going on.

[DP_2017]

Whatever is going on, I hope you get some helpful answers from it. I'm still willing to read if you need someone else... don't let the fact that I love the stuff with my T going on , deter you, I'm very aware that everyone is different and has different levels of comfort etc... so I'd reply generally speaking as I would to anyone else.

Again, welcome, hope you enjoy yourself here

[toomanycats]

I am also willing to weigh in. I have experience with a male therapist who crossed boundaries in a grey-area way. I'm also seeing a male therapist now who has very good boundaries.

[Favorite Jeans]

Almost always when something feels wrong, it is. But even if nothing happened that is objectively wrong, it is enough that you don’t feel right. People socialized as women are often made to feel that whatever is going on has to meet the standard for conviction in a court of law in order to be “allowed” to distance ourselves from someone.

Not so.

You can unilaterally decide that you don’t want to return to a therapist for any reason at all including “welp I really dunno.” Your sense that something isn’t quite right is enough. Don’t overrule it.

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by Capacity

It won’t let me send PMs until I post a few more times 😕

I’m sorry to hear you may have been treated unethically or had a boundary violation in therapy.

Have had a few untheical T’s and have filed criminal, licensing board and criminal complaints against one.

My PM are open. You can PM me if you want to and I’ll let you know what I think.

[blackocean]

I'd also still like to read.

[Sheffield]

Hi and welcome
First ever attempt at therapy and hadn’t read about boundaries./different styles etc- I have now !!
I’ve been back and forth for 6 months with my opinion of what’s going on (or not )and would be happy to read about your situation with an unbiased eye

[Capacity]

Originally Posted by Sheffield

Hi and welcome
First ever attempt at therapy and hadn’t read about boundaries./different styles etc- I have now !!
I’ve been back and forth for 6 months with my opinion of what’s going on (or not )and would be happy to read about your situation with an unbiased eye

Thank you, Sheffield. I tried PMing you but there is no PM option on your profile. You must have some setting turned off.

[Sheffield]

Hi sorry I hadn’t gone through profile options- hopefully pm available now as I would be extremely interested in your experience