[coolibrarian]

I texted T to ask if someone would pick up her mail at the office and bring it to her. We texted back and forth, and then she said I could send cards to her home address, and gave it to me.

[DP_2017]

Wow, I'm shocked any T would give a client their home address unless they were seeking in home therapy.

I mean cool, but I am sure many would see it as a red flag

[ArtleyWilkins]

My therapists told me where they lived. It really wasn’t a big deal. They knew I wasn’t the type to abuse the information. My guess that is the case here.

[DP_2017]

Again, I find it ok, I'm not against it. Just seems like something that isn't typical in therapy.

As loose boundary and trusting of me as my T is, he would never give that out, he values his privacy too much.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

Again, I find it ok, I'm not against it. Just seems like something that isn't typical in therapy.

As loose boundary and trusting of me as my T is, he would never give that out, he values his privacy too much.

I understand, but it’s also quite probable that the therapist has no fear that the OP will actual invade privacy just because the OP has the address. Not every client would misuse that kind of information (I’d guess most wouldn’t actually).

[DP_2017]

^ Ya again, my T trusts me... but do you really hear this as a common thing? No. That was my point. I'm sure many T's would find this unethical. "Dual" relationship type thing or whatever.

Many T's also find hugs unethical and mine does that often. I was not judging as much as pointing out, it isn't likely something most people in the industry would do... even if they do trust their clients.

[stopdog]

I have been given their home addresses, their cell phone numbers and their personal email. It was not a big deal for me. I would not think it unusual except for the reaction of some people here.

[coolibrarian]

I have been seeing this T for over 25 years. I suspect she knows I won't abuse the information. For instance, I won't do any drive-bys.

[DP_2017]

25 years makes a huge difference. Again no judgement. I think it's cool. I've no room to talk with stuff my t does. I was just unsure how things like that would be viewed by ts. However as long as its cool with you....no worries

[RaineD]

25 years is a long time. I'm jealous you had so many years with your T.

[coolibrarian]

RaineD, there are positives and negatives to this. My T has helped tremendously during this long time, but it also makes me fearful of the eventual termination. I tried to terminate once before, and that lasted about 15 months, but then I went back. I just hope that the next time, the final time, it is by mutual agreement.

That was nice of her. I have always known where my therapist lived and have been to her house a couple times. Its no big deal.

[healed84]

It really depends on the therapy/therapist. Also, since many Ts do therapy from their personal homes I don’t feel like it’s a big deal for a client to know a t’s address. I know where my t lives and have been there in a couple of occasions ( not to see him).

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by coolibrarian

I texted T to ask if someone would pick up her mail at the office and bring it to her. We texted back and forth, and then she said I could send cards to her home address, and gave it to me.

I think that's nice of you to do!



I have R's address and I've posted him something before.

[Anne2.0]

I'm glad that being able to send cards to T's home address will bring you some comfort.

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by RaineD

25 years is a long time. I'm jealous you had so many years with your T.

I hope I have many more years with her.

[coolibrarian]

Can't stop thinking about her. Her surgery is tomorrow, and could last many hours. Wrote her a poem and emailed it to her. No reply, yet, but I think there will be one.

[coolibrarian]

She replied to my email. She liked the poem, and said she still thinks everything will be ok; remember, her surgery is tomorrow.
I got a phone call from one of my other doctors and got some more bad news about my own health, will another fun procedure in the near future. I want to talk to T about it...

[nottrustin]

I don't see a problem with it as long as she is comfortable with it. Even before T had a home office I in few where she lived. When she bought jer house some told me the address and mentioned I should check it online as she hoped to eventually have a home office. Plus when she needed some work done to prepare for the office my husband helped her.

[SlumberKitty]

I think it's cool you will be able to send your T cards. I have my former T's home address and I plan on sending her a Christmas card. We don't live in the same city and it's quite a drive for me so there's a pretty low chance that I would ever even be on her street. I think she felt comfortable giving it to me otherwise she wouldn't have. I've had it for years though. One time to send her a card before she went abroad because for whatever reason she couldn't make it into the office before her trip. But I'm glad I have her address now.