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Roses are falling.
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#561
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She looks so cute and very comfy. I love pet pictures more than I should.We should have a pet thread! Esme has a very cute puppy too. xD (HINT, HINT, HINT) __________________ |
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#562
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Thank you! That's so nice to hear. Somebody here had mentioned back in July that a therapy ending should be organic. I have a better understanding of what that means now, because this one was. A mutual decision we arrived at together. Not one of us forcing it like I had tried to do in the past. |
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I had been using it on my chair as a lumbar support kinda thing, and she stole it that day haha! |
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Roses are falling.
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#564
I've been in bed since I came home at 1pm. Started call the midwife on Netflix, but stopped on episode 2. Watching the new Mowgali film and totally need to join a pack (of wolves). EDIT: I get bored easly and stopped when he has to go back to the village as the tiger wants him.
This is R's reply: Dear S, I hope you are well. First of all, I'd like to apologise for any confusion you may have felt regarding last Tuesday. I was surprised that you expected to see me, since your previous messages indicated the opposite. I did Skype you the previous Tuesday but since you did not answer, I took that as an indication you were serious this time about not wanting to see me. I regret that communications between us have broken down to such an extent that we both feel confused about exactly where we stand with each other and acknowledge my role in that. I'm sorry for not having responded to your emails as frequently as you would have liked. I accept your needs in relation to the therapy, including any dependency issues you may have. I understand that as your anxiety increases, Your feeling that I am smothering you increases along with your desire to break away from me. The matter is complicated by a need I think you have to maintain an appearance of togetherness, even though the material you are attempting to work through can actually feel quite fragmented at times. There are many different aspects to your personality but I will always view you as one person who deserves my empathy. In terms of moving forward, I'd like to keep working with you. I'd think we would need to agree a written contract so we both have a reference point we can return to if either one of us steps over a boundary. We would need to talk about the nature of such a contract in a session. Please let me know if you would like to see me on Tuesday. Best regards, R __________________ Last edited by Lemoncake; Dec 07, 2018 at 12:32 PM.. |
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Roses are falling.
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#565
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This is so cool, I want one: http://www.petsathome.com/shop/en/pe...diator-cat-bed __________________ |
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Roses are falling.
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#566
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It does makes sense to see it like it. It feels natural. __________________ |
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#567
Probably only if they’ve read Alice in Wonderland and were curious enough to ask or look it up. That’s how I learned.
__________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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#568
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This feels like an honest response. He says he wants to keep working with you, that's good right? And he regrets that your communications have broken down & acknowledges his part in it. Do you feel like it was an honest reply? Therapy is SO hard. Before I left t's last night I thanked her for everything. And she told me that I had done all the 'heavy lifting'. I think she was right. This work is so difficult. But for me, it has been worth all the pain, all the tears, all the absolute naked vulnerability. |
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Roses are falling.
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Grand Magnate
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#570
Haha! I see you've deduced what city I live in. Please bring some. They look intriguing. You can order them on amazon apparently but there are a lot of complaints that they arrive melted.
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Grand Magnate
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#571
My therapist just emailed me out of the blue saying he was in office today (he's not usually) and did I want another session. Odd but timely, because yes, I would like to continue yesterday's conversation. I feel a little strange accepting though.
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#572
Lemoncake, that feels like a really supportive reply to me. I think the idea of writing down what you expect of each other is a great idea and may help to lessen some of the anxiety it seems like you feel about the relationship. I hope you continue to work with him. It sounds like he wants to work with you.
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Roses are falling.
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Oh but do it NP! If you buy more you'd have a greater chance that some will have survived the journey! But maybe it was also dependent if the other customers bought it in the summer. __________________ |
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Thanks for the pocket riders. It went OK, still processing. And his son may or may not be on the spectrum, he's not saying. But he seemed to understand why I was upset about it. He apparently just hadn't realized that I'd assumed he was and had made other assumptions based on that. Which, when I read that in the email it upset me, but when we discussed it in person, I understood better...
Canceled Monday's session (since I just saw him and need time to process) and also Thursday's since I'm going Christmas shopping with my dad. He has openings Wed. and Fri. and debating whether to take one or to try a week off? |
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#575
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I'm glad you're taking him up on his offer- why do you think you feel strange though? __________________ |
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#576
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How do you feel about him not confirming either way? Could you go with your gut feeling for now? You could always change your mind __________________ |
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#577
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I'm going to see him on tuesday. __________________ |
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Roses are falling.
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#578
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I honestly hope to be more like you Artie. __________________ |
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I just asked him to put me on schedule for Wednesday. I have a feeling I'll want to process some stuff. He just requires 24 hours notice for cancellation, so if Monday evening/Tuesday morning (since session is Wed. morning) I'm thinking I want more time, can always cancel. Also, that seemed like a really good, caring email from your T. How are you feeling about it? |
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Partly because it's unusual for him to offer something like this. It feels really nice that he offered. Partly because of what we've been talking about this week. We've been discussing my tendency to hint at things with people instead of coming right out and saying what I mean or asking for what I want and what purpose it serves for me. I do this with him more than I should, so we discussed that. He talked about me wanting to be seen and having someone see my needs without having to ask and having my needs met which made me break down and cry. Him offering me this session today feels like he is seeing my needs (we talked about some really painful stuff yesterday) and it just feels so weird to have that happen. I hope that makes sense.
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