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Dec 20, 2018, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 3

Am I being unreasonable?

No, I don't think so. Hugs

Dec 20, 2018, 02:30 PM

Thanks. I didn’t think I was being unreasonable either. And I tried that care credit thing and got declined due to insufficient credit history.
I told my H he adopted another dog but can’t afford the one we have. No response from him there...

unaluna · Dec 20, 2018, 02:33 PM

jersey - my parents were EXTREMELY anti-pet. Especially they thought americans were foolish for how much money they spent on them. I didnt agree with them, i had cats for a while.

But i think end of life issues in america are similar for humans and companion animals. It practically becomes a matter of faith, like evangelical faith, where you are encouraged to believe that if you send in your money, you will get your miracle. Or simply that you can buy whatever result you want. But you cant buy health or life, and i think we forget that.

At work we used to say, if a project was falling way behind or was in bad shape, that you cant just throw money at a problem.

Maybe thats why your h brought the new dog home.

WarmFuzzySocks · Dec 20, 2018, 02:34 PM

I just got an email from a former exchange student with his graduation photos and a lovely message thanking me for helping him learn English and welcoming him into my family.

It is partly touching because it is thoughtful and kind, and inspiring to know that welcoming these young people in our home has an impact on their lives.

And it was both touching and difficult to read because he talks about my grace with my family and the way I bless others, and he was in our home when things were really starting to go south. It just brought back a flood of memory of trying to keep things even and balanced and safe, and knowing that the outward appearance of calm and grace was real, it wasn't exactly false, but it took a lot of juggling on my part to keep it that way.

Whoo. I needed to dump that somewhere so I can go on about my day.

stopdog · Dec 20, 2018, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 3

Am I being unreasonable?

I would not have found his response to be useful, I just don't think that the indirect passive aggressive approach is the best way to address it.
But that is just how I see it.

Dec 20, 2018, 02:39 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

jersey - my parents were EXTREMELY anti-pet. Especially they thought americans were foolish for how much money they spent on them. I didnt agree with them, i had cats for a while.

But i think end of life issues in america are similar for humans and companion animals. It practically becomes a matter of faith, like evangelical faith, where you are encouraged to believe that if you send in your money, you will get your miracle. Or simply that you can buy whatever result you want. But you cant buy health or life, and i think we forget that.

At work we used to say, if a project was falling way behind or was in bad shape, that you cant just throw money at a problem.

Maybe thats why your h brought the new dog home.

Thanks for offering that perspective. Makes a lot of sense.

SalingerEsme · Dec 20, 2018, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 3

Am I being unreasonable?

If you feel the quality of her life as waned so much she is not enjoying more days than she is not, I think you are making a good decision though a difficult one. If she still really loves her days, but her peeing is making your frantic, maybe she could go on prion(sp) as well as antibiotics? She could wear "britches" made for in season dogs, or you can buy boy's underwear, out her tail through the fly, and use a pad.

SlumberKitty · Dec 20, 2018, 03:25 PM

My boss is driving me a bit wacky today. Usually she doesn't, but today I'm like banging my head against the wall (figuratively). Kit

SalingerEsme · Dec 20, 2018, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

jersey - my parents were EXTREMELY anti-pet. Especially they thought americans were foolish for how much money they spent on them. I didnt agree with them, i had cats for a while.

But i think end of life issues in america are similar for humans and companion animals. It practically becomes a matter of faith, like evangelical faith, where you are encouraged to believe that if you send in your money, you will get your miracle. Or simply that you can buy whatever result you want. But you cant buy health or life, and i think we forget that.

At work we used to say, if a project was falling way behind or was in bad shape, that you cant just throw money at a problem.

Maybe thats why your h brought the new dog home.

Such a great post

Dec 20, 2018, 03:37 PM

I now have a less than 0 desire to be productive today. 3.5 hrs to go of my work day.

LonesomeTonight · Dec 20, 2018, 03:40 PM

I agree that you're not being unreasonable, Jersey.

susannahsays · Dec 20, 2018, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

PSA - cauliflower tots are disgusting. A disservice to both cauliflower and tots.

They truly are. I was so disappointed when I tried them.

StressedMess · Dec 20, 2018, 04:47 PM

My brain is already on Christmas vacation. I worked today but I couldn't tell you what I accomplished. Tonight is my nephew's birthday dinner, tomorrow I have the afternoon off, and I don't have any excuses left. I have to wrap all the gifts and clean because company is coming for Christmas!!!

Have a good evening couch.

Dec 20, 2018, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by whispershadow

Blessed I hope your cat turns up

Jersey I hop your dog gets better

I hope so. He is the most timid of my cats.

Dec 20, 2018, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I honestly never knew cats go nuts about trees.

This is what i picked up around the tree this morning. The cats have broken the legs so the tree rests against the couch now. I havent checked the rest of my house. Its like kitty christmas mafia.

Dec 20, 2018, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

If you feel the quality of her life as waned so much she is not enjoying more days than she is not, I think you are making a good decision though a difficult one. If she still really loves her days, but her peeing is making your frantic, maybe she could go on prion(sp) as well as antibiotics? She could wear "britches" made for in season dogs, or you can buy boy's underwear, out her tail through the fly, and use a pad.

Thanks, but it has to do more with the quality of her life. She already wears diapers in the house but usually she urinates so much that unlimitely she soaks through the diaper and the onsie holding it on. (We use a onsie to hold the diaper on because she does not have a tail. It was already docked when I rescued her. I tried dog diapers and human diapers and neither one holds up to her bladder even when she does not have an infection. She drinks her weight in water every day but it’s not an option to limit her water because of her other health issues, the vet said she must have access to her water at all times. I’m fighting an uphill battle with her. My boss just gave me a nice big Christmas bonus-that should cover most of her vet visit on Saturday.

SlumberKitty · Dec 20, 2018, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 3

Thanks, but it has to do more with the quality of her life. She already wears diapers in the house but usually she urinates so much that unlimitely she soaks through the diaper and the onsie holding it on. (We use a onsie to hold the diaper on because she does not have a tail. It was already docked when I rescued her. I tried dog diapers and human diapers and neither one holds up to her bladder even when she does not have an infection. She drinks her weight in water every day but it’s not an option to limit her water because of her other health issues, the vet said she must have access to her water at all times. I’m fighting an uphill battle with her. My boss just gave me a nice big Christmas bonus-that should cover most of her vet visit on Saturday.

Thank goodness for bonuses. I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. Kit

Dec 20, 2018, 08:28 PM

Thanks everyone.
I’m going to bed early. My head is pounding from this and work.

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 20, 2018, 08:31 PM

I'm so depressed! T said that if I can't pay her, I'll have to go elsewhere.

Possible trigger:

I want to die!

DP_2017 · Dec 20, 2018, 08:35 PM

I remember why I hate retail. I am about to punch people who come into my line, omg. Calm the F down folks....

susannahsays · Dec 20, 2018, 08:43 PM

I'm sorry to hear that, Scarlet. What was it - was your insurance changing or something?

Dec 20, 2018, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I'm so depressed! T said that if I can't pay her, I'll have to go elsewhere.

Possible trigger:

I want to die!

Oh this makes me so mad! I am sorry scarlet.

LonesomeTonight · Dec 20, 2018, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I'm so depressed! T said that if I can't pay her, I'll have to go elsewhere.

Possible trigger:

I want to die!

Hugs, Scarlet...is she not even willing to set up a payment plan or something, if it comes to that?

Dec 20, 2018, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I'm so depressed! T said that if I can't pay her, I'll have to go elsewhere.

Possible trigger:

I want to die!

That’s all she said about it? That you will have to go elsewhere? She’s not willing to work out anything?

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 20, 2018, 09:42 PM

Basically. She suggested that I go to Jewish Family Service.

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