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Old Dec 20, 2018, 05:45 PM
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As it's the holiday season... if you could give your therapist anything, what would your gift be and why?

I know some t's accept holiday gifts, so I guess this is more for those of us who have t's that don't.

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Old Dec 20, 2018, 06:07 PM
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A blanket that I crocheted for him.

I have not actually crocheted a blanket, so this is a definite fantasy lol.
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 06:14 PM
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I think my T is mad that I did not even attempt to give him a card or a gift and that is why he was abrupt and dismissive when I emailed him for some help the other day.
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 06:19 PM
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A day out walking the coastal path with me and my dog-he has lost his confidence walking far as has been hospitalised with a serious diabetic issue - I have a giant cell sarcoma in my left ankle (multiple surgeries/ chemo etc) and feel that’s a fear I’ve overcome and would like to give some confidence to him
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 06:46 PM
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For my former T, a day at Disney together. I would love to spend that time together at the happiest place on earth, to just people watch and walk around and have the most lovely conversations. For my new T...I'll just stick with the card I gave her. Kit
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 08:03 PM
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pay off all his debts so he could get rid of his money anxiety
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 09:15 PM
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This isn't particularly far out there, but he tends to wear interesting socks. So a pair of unique socks. Ideally, with penguins on them, because he's now referenced penguins like twice in the past few sessions. Well, and I'd also like to make him a "mix tape" or I guess, what, playlist? Because I'm referencing music all the time, and he's not that into music, so I'd like him to have some sense of what I'm talking about. Even though he likely wouldn't really get the meaning. Or hey, maybe I could give him the song that makes him appreciate music (I tend to be a bit of an evangelist for the music I'm into).
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 09:21 PM
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 10:57 PM
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T accepted my small gifts but he wants a Pomeranian. I’d give him a floofball.
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 11:00 PM
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A painting (that I've done) and a big bottle of wine.
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 11:33 PM
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I'd crochet an afghan for her.
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Old Dec 20, 2018, 11:48 PM
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I think I woud give my therapist, a middle aged woman, a book on natural health.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 12:04 AM
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a book or journal
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 12:16 AM
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I amazoned mine a thank you book anonymously
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 02:20 AM
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I can give my T gifts, and I'm happy with the gift I gave him this year (a handmade tree ornament) but if I could have a fantasy gift, it would be slippers and a therapy-related mug. Because I am a bit fixated on the idea of him in slippers drinking tea for some reason.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 02:33 AM
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I know he is mad keen on cricket, so wheni was going through some old boxes i found book of the History of the ashes ( annual cricket match between Australia and England, for those who dont know) that was my fathers. I have no interest in it but i know he probably wouldnt take it for various reasons.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 05:13 PM
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 05:29 PM
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This year, I had an idea that I would give him some of my homemade jam because it's really good.

A few years ago, when I was struggling badly with ET, I went through The Times mag "For Him" christmas gift list (I don't know if they still do it but it was a high end, swanky sort of gift list) and tried to choose something from there. Nothing really seemed to fit. In the end I decided that the ideal gift would have been one of those plastic, gold waving cats... the sort of ones you see in chinese take aways. I liked the idea of disrupting the calm decor with something so tacky, creepily watching all the other intruders (I mean clients obvs ) coming into the room and waving at them.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 05:32 PM
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I can give my T gifts, and I'm happy with the gift I gave him this year (a handmade tree ornament) but if I could have a fantasy gift, it would be slippers and a therapy-related mug. Because I am a bit fixated on the idea of him in slippers drinking tea for some reason.
Ha! I'm fixated on mine wearing slippers and a cardigan. It's going to happen, I just know it.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 05:39 PM
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This isn't particularly far out there, but he tends to wear interesting socks. So a pair of unique socks. Ideally, with penguins on them, because he's now referenced penguins like twice in the past few sessions. Well, and I'd also like to make him a "mix tape" or I guess, what, playlist? Because I'm referencing music all the time, and he's not that into music, so I'd like him to have some sense of what I'm talking about. Even though he likely wouldn't really get the meaning. Or hey, maybe I could give him the song that makes him appreciate music (I tend to be a bit of an evangelist for the music I'm into).
Are mix tapes even a thing anymore? They were all the rage in the 90s but I haven't heard about them in ages. LOL

I find it so weird when people don't like music... like at all....I also know someone who doesn't.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 06:38 PM
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A short story I wrote or something from my graphic art, relevant to something we did in therapy.
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 06:52 PM
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Meeee - surprise, I'm moving in so that you can adopt me into your family, T
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Old Dec 21, 2018, 06:57 PM
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Are mix tapes even a thing anymore? They were all the rage in the 90s but I haven't heard about them in ages. LOL

I find it so weird when people don't like music... like at all....I also know someone who doesn't.

Totally not a thing anymore. Like I guess for a bit it was mix CDs, but now I guess a playlist? I'm not sure how that works, like I'd buy it all on iTunes and gift it? Or...cheaper version, just send links to all the songs on YouTube?

I'm also mystified by people who don't like music at all. I just keep thinking "You haven't heard the right song!" Like I've wanted to play something for him in session before, but I was afraid he'd just be like, "Uh, OK, I don't get the meaning." Maybe I should try anyway.
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Old Dec 22, 2018, 06:15 AM
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My T is really into clocks, so I suppose I would find him a really neat, unique clock.

Instead I took the boring route and gave him a couple bottles of wine.
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Old Dec 22, 2018, 06:21 AM
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some dvd relating to a comedian or a funny movie or a funny cd of songs

she likes comeddy
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