Couch 185: The Labyrinth

I dragged my sister shopping just to get out of the house this morning. We got the pharmacist I've worked for previously a fancy shmancy tin of shortbread biscuits- which were reduced by £5 ,which I went in to deliver. And I bought Belle a tin of gourmet cat food! other flavours included chicken with tomato sauce.

The best bit -we also got mince pies.

Poor kitty. I think she really appreciates you comforting her.

I'm sorry to read this Scarlett. Is H even willing to work on his angry? You don't have to do anything you want to do and you don't deserve to be in a relationship where your not treated with kindness and respect.

I love how we speak English here as you guys do across the pond but yet the language is so different. Trolley for us is a shopping cart.. Car
Park is a parking lot here. I think you guys also say “till” when referring to the cash register?
I love love the accent I can hear it in my head when you guys type here. I have Siri on my phone set to a british accent.

I think it’s okay to put yourself first. You need to protect yourself and take care of you. Hugs .

We all have the same sun, but it's different. I typed store previously then corrected myself.

Have you seen the movie Johnny English?!

Thank you. How you this morning?

My wine last night didn’t put me into the drunken stupor I was hoping for, but maybe that’s not a terrible thing. The only way through this..is well...through. Illl need to find another job to continue to support myself without H’s income. I’ll need night time work in addition to my day job.
There’s so much to think about. So much tied together that needs to be untied. Lots of things are in his name. The house is mine though. My parents signed this mortgage so the house is mine. Lots of stuff in it is his, but he can have it all. We are not in a community state..so there won’t be no halfing everything. I guess in a way that makes it easier because maybe that means that things arent as complicated to untie than I think they are. He “owns” the cars though. They are in his name.

I haven’t seen that movie but maybe I’ll watch it-if it’s a lemoncake recommendation then it will be worth it to watch.

Thank you for your reply NP. I've already cut my trip down from the original 10 our school gave us to just 6 because I knew it would be the same old thing. I leave on the 31st. My brother offered to let me stay with him, but he lives an hour away and she's only still just 15 so too young to travel on her own.

Ho hum just have to do what I've always done even as a kid- stay out of his as much as possible and don't say anything back.

It's supposed to be a comedy about a spy. Warning I'm a sucker for all things hallmark and you've got mail

Perhaps you could see a divorce lawyer to ensure you are able to make an informed choice about things.

I thought a trolley was a streetcar?

In Minnesota they call parking garages “ramps.” Which I guess makes sense.

Down south a shopping cart is a buggy. No horses, though, the aisles are crowded enough!

I don't even want to do Christmas this year.

Butterfly, so sorry

I'm so sorry, butterfly. Hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Butterfly...

So sorry Butterfly.

So very sorry for your loss, Butterfly.

Butterfly, I'm sorry for your loss.

I'd definitely check with a lawyer, both in general and about the property. I have no idea if I'm in a community state or not, but I was under the impression that things bought during a marriage are considered "marital property" no matter whose name they're in. Or maybe your H can just let you have one of the cars. And you might be able to get alimony from him if he makes more than you. Also, the fact that he's the one who left could play a factor, I'm not sure.

Thank you everyone.

Louisiana, Arizona, California, Texas, Washington, Idaho, Nevada, New Mexico, and Wisconsin are considered community property states, every other state is common law. So I think in this case since the cars are in his name and he’s on he registration then he can rightfully take both. But I am going to do what you suggest and probably ask a lawyer. Even though I would like to think that he would make this as painless as possible, you just never know. I mean he can go ahead and take his cars. I’ll buy a beat up hunk of junk to get me back and forth. He still has to come get his crap out.

Yeah the subtle cultural differences and language differences sometimes strike me too, especially on the couch and when PMing with people I've met on here. Yeah i would say till, not register! Your translation of my post is spot on