Couch 185: The Labyrinth

So sorry, Jersey. I gave up everything material that I could in order to keep the dogs. This big regret I have all these years later is the photo albums- I wish I could see them again. Also,my books from college and grad school that I had written in their margins while studying. Everyone will give you great advice on the big stuff. I want to say, think about small sentimental things and stash them in a safe deposit box so they are nonnegotiable and forgotten by him. . Also today watch any joint accounts or credit cards in case he truest liquidate stuff immediately.

I listed with interest to this podcast called Session Lessons of actual sessions with real psychotherapist and clients. The first few are really touching, but the latest one he seems to talk over the patient. Curious what everyone thinks about the content & ethics. He seems much more at ease with male clients than female ones. Session Lessons Podcast — Josh Jonas

Egads I cannot even fathom having any of my sessions put out there like that. Yikes.

Me either! I am not sure about this podcast- the ethics even if the clients say okay. I did really enjoy 3 of them without feeling like a vouyuer. One of them I felt the therapist was performing his role and talking over the client .

I agree with you about the consent. I feel the same way about testimonials. Because of the power dynamics of therapy, consent is not black and white.

I listened to part of one and thought it felt kinda scripted or something. The client sounded kinda like she was reading aloud from a paper or something. Maybe that's just me though because my sessions sure never sounded like that. Then again I did a lot of deep work and the one I listened to part of sounded very surface stuff. I'll listen to more later when I'm not working it's interesting to 'sit in' on someone else's therapy.

I don't mean to sound judgy there. Just a very different style than my own experience.

Hm, so apparently my H just thought I was apologizing for something and being all "whatever" about it, when I was more commenting on something D did. H was in bathroom, D wanted help with something, I started coming up stairs saying I could help, and D screamed, "NO!!! No Mommy!" I heard H coming back down, and I was like, "Well, I tried!" and he was all weird about it. (I didn't say anything remotely resembling "I'm sorry.") And now he's just being cranky. Counting today, 9 more days to go...(of D and H both being home).


(Incidentally, D was down here with me most of the morning.)

I'll have to listen later--I'm curious as to how others do therapy. I mean, of course I see what people write here, but to actually hear a session...Pretty sure I wouldn't want any of mine out there like that!

Keep in mind, though, someone listening to your sessions might come away with the same conclusions you made about the one on the podcast, that they were scripted and surface. And the podcast client might have felt she was doing deep work too.

I thought he attuned more sensitively to his male clients and parts of those sessions were quite strong.

His stated mission is to demystify therapy by showing how rewarding it is.

There are many troubling aspects to do this though, publishing real sessions.

This is exactly why I said I wasn't intending to be judgy. I don't belong here.

Hey Artie, nobody is saying that

Yeah! Forget The Couch! Come join me On The Bench! Or would that be, At The Bar?

Seconded

Our bodies are capable of handling an omnivorous diet (which, btw, a vegetarian diet is... dairy is not a plant lol). However, when you say our bodies were "designed" to be omnivorous, and when you exclude vegetarian diets from this, it sounds like you are insinuating that a vegetarian diet is not natural or healthy for a human. That's not the case.

I am supposed to go to a pub with my parents tonight to get a quick bite to eat. Typical bar fare...fine. But they keep telling me to pick a time. Why can’t they just pick a time? Can’t anyone else for the love of god make a damn plan. Jersey pick a time. Jersey pick a time.
I DONT FREAKING CARE.

Art, that’s not what I said, nor did I call you judgy.

Please don’t put whatever that feeling of not belonging is and where it comes from on what I said.

What is deep work versus other sorts?

That's annoying... My mom is doing that to me (and usually does), just texted to find out when we plan to come over tomorrow. Like, can't we just see how the morning goes with D? I just told her it won't be earlier than 11:30.

ETA: Do they know about your H?

2ex used to do this...and then whatever decision I made, it would be the wrong one.

They know about H because when we got into the fight on Saturday I was such as mess that as I was backing out of my driveway I dented my car and called my mom on the phone hysterical.

Your D will probably want to play with her new toys and stuff. Your mom will just have to be patient...

I just told my mom how about 4. She said how about 5.

[QUOTE=LonesomeTonight;6376907]That's annoying... My mom is doing that to me (and usually does), just texted to find out when we plan to come over tomorrow. Like, can't we just see how the morning goes with D? I just told her it won't be earlier than 11:30.
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I would want to know what time someone was coming over. Cooking, other things require some planning.
Perhaps it would be better to just tell people" we are eating at 1pm - hope you are able to come but if not, see you when you get here."

(this is why I avoid my family on holidays- my parent is fine but I cannot deal with my sibling and his horrible wife and their children on a holiday and how they interact with everyone else).

How are you going to get any work done with them around? Is he going to take D out of you have stuff to do?