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Old Dec 29, 2018, 02:41 PM
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I'm starting to feel somewhat better than I have been physically, but I'm still absolutely exhausted. The anger is coming through again as well...I don't know what that's about.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 03:13 PM
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I'm so sorry you have to go through all of that. None of his behavior sounds normal and would be red flag in a relationship for me . You have a right to say no to having sex without him throwing stuff regardless of the external circumstances .

Can you turn the GPS off? There might be a few guides online. Or would it be possible to ask a friend or a relative to take you? If you can't go at all- Do you have those skin closure strips?
I have to check about looking it up online on how to deactivate it or that's even possible. I probably could have taken my father's truck if needed. I ended up going out shopping for an hour with my youngest to give us both space. The SH wasn't as bad I as I thought it was after I looked at it.

My T called me this morning and I was able to talk to him for 15 minutes. He said he would be available tonight if I wanted to call again or I can just wait until I see him on Wednesday. I'm so thankful I found him for a T.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 06:39 PM
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My husband came home. Said he’s sorry. Wants to forget everything he said. I told him
It’s not that simple. That he doesn’t get to leave for a week, come back and want things to be normal. His mother called me the other day. She told me he went to her seeking support but she told me she told him he was wrong. Took my side supposedly. I don’t know. But he doesn’t get to just come back after a week wanting to forget everything that happened. It’s just not the way it works. His sister told me he went to her too and supposedly she told him to get the stick out of his *** and go talk to his wife. So he found no support thru his own family and now wants to come home.
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Of course he wants to forget everything he said. Which really means he wants you to forget.



I'm sorry he's see-sawing. Back-and-forth can be exhausting.
However you decide to handle this, you are in control of your timeline.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 07:12 PM
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Anybody want a gift card to the local movie theater? My sister just gave me a gift card to the movies. I don’t go to the movies-like ever.
Send H to the movies if he comes back when he starts getting on your nerves?

More seriously, there are giftcard exchange sites online. You can trade for something you would use.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 07:17 PM
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I started sorting my storage locker, choosing clothes to donate. It wasnt nearly as heinous a process as i long feared it would be. Getting old has its advantages.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 07:32 PM
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Hugs, Jersey.

Of course he wants to forget everything he said. Which really means he wants you to forget.



I'm sorry he's see-sawing. Back-and-forth can be exhausting.
However you decide to handle this, you are in control of your timeline.
He’s not allowed back right now. He only came back because his mother and sister didn’t support him. Guess once he saw that, he figured being here isn’t so bad after all?

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Send H to the movies if he comes back when he starts getting on your nerves?

More seriously, there are giftcard exchange sites online. You can trade for something you would use.
I actually called my sister about the gift cards. I asked her what made her think I would enjoy a movie gift card and she told me she thought I would want to see Mary Poppins Returns. She had good intentions. I felt bad I was a ***** about it. I’m actually not interested in seeing Mary Poppins Returns. Mary Poppins was one of my favorite childhood movies, but I think they should have just left well enough alone and not made another one even though I think the story line is slightly different. I think between the original Mary Poppins and Saving Mr. Banks (which I thought was a great movie) they didn’t need to make another one based on Mary Poppins and could have left well enough alone.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 07:35 PM
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How do you feel seeing him again? Do you want him back? Would you both be willing to give marriage counseling a go?
He doesn’t believe in counseling at all. And I made a promise to myself I would never return to therapy for anything. I need to focus more on my
Physical health right now. I’m quite overweight. I’m going to see a doctor at a weight loss clinic and would rather put my money towards that.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 08:50 PM
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I am flying home with new cat tomorrow and very anxious about it.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 08:53 PM
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I am flying home with new cat tomorrow and very anxious about it.
I’m sure things will go smoothly.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 09:27 PM
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I'm sat eating a Ł12 box of chocolates instead.
Was that a big box or a quality box?
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 09:29 PM
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Commercials are for getting a snack, reading a book, checking the Couch, or a quick bit of exercise.

You’re not supposed to *watch* them.
It beats me how advertisements ever make any money. Surely no one actually watches them?
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 09:41 PM
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Having never flown with a cat, I have a question: Does the cat fly with you in a carrier, or do you check the cat into some kind of special pet travel like a piece of luggage?

Hugs. I hope the trip goes well, and if not that YouTube makes your cat famous for a day .
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 09:44 PM
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H and I worked all afternoon on the "library" room. It's coming along. Now he wants to go see a movie. The newish one with Robert Redford and Sissy Spacek.

We seem to be getting along so well since son moved out. Is that like a normal thing to happen?! I wonder.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 09:47 PM
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Having never flown with a cat, I have a question: Does the cat fly with you in a carrier, or do you check the cat into some kind of special pet travel like a piece of luggage?

Hugs. I hope the trip goes well, and if not that YouTube makes your cat famous for a day .
Carrier in the cabin under the seat. Pets can be checked but there’s no need with a small 8 lb. cat.

I once saw Grumpy Cat in an airport. That cat is a millionaire. Why can I not have millionaire cats?
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 10:57 PM
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ATAT -I hope it goes okay and that the tsa idiots don't let him out of the carrier again.

I would not want a millionaire cat - imagine the haughty attitude of a cat who knew they could get another minion with merely a twitch of their tale. It chills me to think the places where the cat could stash my body.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 11:03 PM
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Carrier in the cabin under the seat. Pets can be checked but there’s no need with a small 8 lb. cat.

I once saw Grumpy Cat in an airport. That cat is a millionaire. Why can I not have millionaire cats?
You saw grumpy cat at the airport once? Did you get his autograph? I would be totally starstruck.
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Old Dec 29, 2018, 11:58 PM
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I am watching the new season of Angie Tribeca - I think it is very funny.

And so far my favorite switch game is pianista. I totally suck at it but it is fun.
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 12:25 AM
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My dad and I just finished building an entertainment center. My back is killing me, but it's really nice. I did most the work, and only made one mistake. He helped mostly guide me. It was a nice project to do together.

I caught a cold somehow. My depression and anxiety probably lowered my immune system because I rarely get sick. I feel so foggy.

Still upset about the situation with T. I'm trying to not think about it. It's hard though.
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 08:59 AM
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Serious question, does anyone know how hard it is to write a book? Even self publish... not for me but my disabled sibling loves to write and he is talking about wanting to write a book about the struggles he has in life... so I want to try and help him out
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:07 AM
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Serious question, does anyone know how hard it is to write a book? Even self publish... not for me but my disabled sibling loves to write and he is talking about wanting to write a book about the struggles he has in life... so I want to try and help him out
It is difficult to write a book, I've tried writing stories before and never finish them. As for publishing them, you have to jump through a few million hoops
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:16 AM
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I'm thinking though ....... I might try writing a fictional "diary" about someone in hiding from the nazis in world war 2. Need to think about that.
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:17 AM
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Self-publishing is pretty easy, DP. There are online websites that help with the formatting. If he chooses to publish as an e-book, it’s even easier. It will cost a bit but it might be worth it to see his words in print.
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:19 AM
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Depends what he wants from the experience as well, DP, if he wants recognition then self publishing is much more work than going down a publisher route.
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:20 AM
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Old Dec 30, 2018, 09:22 AM
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You saw grumpy cat at the airport once? Did you get his autograph? I would be totally starstruck.

He—she?— was too busy being interviewed.

We are through security by virtue of a private screening. There was a small dog in the security line ahead of us—it just hung there from its owner’s arm all complacent. New cat curled her lip in scorn at its failure to Resist.
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